nickf100 Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 Im 28/m. My gf and i broke up 3 months ago, i am not over her yet but on my way. We have talked a handful of times briefly since breaking up. Today she sends me a text saying she is 2 months pregnant. This means that one month after we broke up she went out and got pregnant. she knows the guy but said it was 'donor sperm' because she wants to be a single mom. Even though were not together i cant help but feel totally hurt by this because i still love her, it was so soon after we broke up and because now the chances of us ever making it work is gone. Any advice on what i should do to help move on?
NopeNah Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 Any advice on what i should do to help move on? Just read your post! Cut ALL ties with her and get on with things. "Not my circus,not my monkeys". 4
DarrenB Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 What ex do you mean? I don't recall you EVER having an ex like that? Neither should you
Bialy Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 RUN! This should be be final nail in this breakup coffin... a bun in her oven. She's not your girlfriend. This is not your baby. RUN. 2
aloneinaz Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 This is why everyone recommends you immediately end ALL contact w/an ex as soon as you end. NC works wonders my friend in getting over someone you still have feelings for. When you have no contact with an ex, you don't hear that they have a new love, are pregnant, married another ex as soon as you got dumped, etc.. Out of sight, out of mind. Stay NC and you will heal and move forward. 1
NIGHT1985 Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 This is why everyone recommends you immediately end ALL contact w/an ex as soon as you end. NC works wonders my friend in getting over someone you still have feelings for. When you have no contact with an ex, you don't hear that they have a new love, are pregnant, married another ex as soon as you got dumped, etc.. Out of sight, out of mind. Stay NC and you will heal and move forward. This! I made this mistake of staying in my ex's life too long! Too many painful updates, it was torture. Now I've cut off contact with her and our mutual friends. My biggest fear is hearing that she gets knocked up or engaged, hopefully neither fall on my ear, I don't want to know 2
Hoosfoos Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 "Wants to be a single mom", wow she's setting the bar REAL high. 1
Frozensushi Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 "Wants to be a single mom", wow she's setting the bar REAL high. I dated a woman who did this. She had no idea what she was getting herself into. She wasn't independently wealthy, was already struggling financially, had no help raising the child, was obviously trying to fill a void in her life. One night she told me that, if she had the means, she would start an organization that would go around to schools teaching young adults how important it was to have 2 parents when raising a child. Your Ex is in for a big surprise. Also, she's probably got some other issues going on. I mean, planned parenthood exists for this very reason. After a year or two with that child, she will most likely be desperately looking for a baby daddy. Don't be surprised if you get a friendly text/e-mail/call asking you out on a date.
basil67 Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 Is this the prostitute you dated for five months?
privategal Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 Why would she even feel the need to tell you she was pregnant? Why would an ex need that update? I bet she is lying, the pregnancy was accidental with some new random she was hooking up with, he dumped her...the easier story is to act like she wants the baby and be a single mom. No one wants to be a single mom of a baby not even conceived out of love or careful planning. It was an accident and I bet she got dumped and was hoping you'd volunteer to say, don't be a single Mom, let's raise the baby together. Run, block, never contact her again.
Nadine123 Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 Having a tough day about ex who ghosted me. any words of encouragement would be great.
Nadine123 Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 sorry meant to post this seperately. my apologies.
Author nickf100 Posted September 11, 2016 Author Posted September 11, 2016 (edited) Is this the prostitute you dated for five months? Yes sir, this is the same girl. when i fell in love with her i had no idea. i have no idea what drove her to give me this update, probably because she knew it would **** with me. i was doing VERY well before this. She would always talk about how much she wanted a baby, i didnt want one right now, but she said since she made so much money she didnt need a man to support her. So i guess she made an arrangement to be prego. I hope that poor schmuck is cool with paying child support if she decides she wants it. When we talked she was asking what my opinion on single moms was and if i would date a single mom, almost like she was seeing if i would get back together with her if she was a single mom. I basically explained to her today that i need no contact like you guys have said. Even told her im changing carriers so my number will be changing. If she tries to contact me after this im going to pretend its not me. I am several drinks in right now btw. -nick Edited September 11, 2016 by nickf100 spelling
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