Star99 Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 (edited) I've known him for 13 years more friend than anything during these yrs he has a Nick to give the slient treatment and we part ways and end up coming back together. .. The last we did not talk for a year. This time he came back saying he wanted to really try this time it and I could see the change..now we 2 years in with a few bumps along the way.. He says he has a problem with me that I speak before I think. I said I would be more aware... Long story story I ask a question about getting his little for and he went off the deep end went into slient treatment and broke up via face book refused to talk to me.. Keep in mind I have give all to except him for who he was but this one thing of me he can't get past ..this is the only issue he harped on... He stated the went I ask question about his child it hurt him cause he can't answer he is going thru c.p.s to try to prove mother unfired but it not going the way He needs it to go cause the child is not speaking up . Question is how can one walk away. Cut off all contact texting do not. Contact him again over. A issue with speaking before you think ... We were talking marriage what could have made him have so much anger to through it all away Edited September 10, 2016 by Star99 Correcrion
DarrenB Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 Sounds like you're dealing with an emotionally or mentally unstable child here. I'm young myself, so don't quote me on anything but it seems to me he just doesn't know what he's doing or what he wants; from you especially. Granted you have known him over 13 years, so you probably know him better than anyone and any of us but I'm just going by how you're making him be perceived. Maybe he's just going through something you don't know? but he definitely isn't handling it correctly by giving you the thumbs down when he likes and then crawling back to you attempting to re-gain what he's already lost multiple times. You're just giving him the closure to keep on coming back when he chooses to, regardless of his problems and issues. Simply either go no contact him from now on, let him and yourself have some time to think about whether you being together is even acceptable anymore, or tell him straight how it is. Which is you will not deal with being thrown around like a year old piece of meat. No-one should ever feel neglected during a relationship or be made so confused as to whether they actually want them or not. Choose wisely. But I'd suggest just moving on from him. Find someone better 1
Author Star99 Posted September 11, 2016 Author Posted September 11, 2016 My ex broke up with me because I didn't change a flaw in thinking before I spoke ... Here's the deal I an Ex a question about his child and he got mad and went into the slient treatment ..me being thru this before with him truer to contact ..I know should have let him .. Mind you I have done all a woman can do to show love and compassion... But why blame your choice to breakup is blamed a flaw . he got so angery that he said never contact him again and was blocking all my contacts. It cool he wanted to break up but why not talk to a person ..don't. Do it on f/b what kind of mess is that .. We have 13 year history 10 of those as friend which he's done this before and we go a year with talking ..but he came back this time wanting to make it work as a couple. We were talking marriage in the last year.. But I hurt his feeling and he throws away everthing Just trying to understand if you love someone how on earth can you cut them off completely with some much anger and your the one that brought it to a end.. Like it never existed.
sooshi Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 Just trying to understand if you love someone how on earth can you cut them off completely with some much anger and your the one that brought it to a end.. Like it never existed. He doesn't love you. His actions have shown that. I agree with DarrenB: He sounds unstable. I think he was looking for an excuse to end it. Too much drama with him. Best to start focusing on accept that he wasn't as great as you thought. Why would you continue to tolerate his behaviour? You'd be walking on eggshells all the time, making sure you think before you say anything--and then what if you didn't like what you were to say? He'd get mad and give you the silent treatment. That sounds like an agonizing way to live. Nor does that make for a healthy relationship. Do you want to living like that? Stop blaming yourself. He's manipulating you into feeling like you're the problem when actually, it's him. He's immature and callous with you, and I see no evidence of love. Just deep attachment and toxicity. Don't confuse love with attachment or with co-dependency. Focus on building your self-esteem. Be with someone who won't judge you for speaking. 2
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