Conviction Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Just wanted to get a different outlook on this from all of you. So, started seeing an old fling recently. When we first met earlier this year, it was great. She always wanted to spend time together, was very flirtatious, and made it obvious that she like me a lot. We saw eachother almost everyday. We unfortunately parted ways, mostly under mutual conditions. Well, she reached back out to me about a month ago, and we've been in constant contact ever since. Problem is, she acts VERY differently. Mostly, we've only seen each other twice since we started chatting again, despite my efforts to see her more. The times we have hung out, she was very affectionate, grabbed my hand, hugged, kissed, etc, two of the three initiated by her. Most recently, I asked her to dinner, and said she couldn't because she has stuff she needs to eat at her house before it spoils. That threw me for a loop. WTF?? I'm really confused as to where her heads at and ehy shes acting so different. Like I said, when we hung out, she was all over me, she initiates texts/phone calls all the time, but for some reason seems to avoid meeting in person. I plan on talking with her to see what her intentions are because I would really like this to evolve into a relationship, but wanted to get a few opinions first from a different perspective. Thanks in advance.
preraph Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Maybe she just didn't feel up to a date that night. Or maybe she is seeing others as well. I wouldn't make a big deal about one thing like that though.
Author Conviction Posted September 9, 2016 Author Posted September 9, 2016 Maybe she just didn't feel up to a date that night. Or maybe she is seeing others as well. I wouldn't make a big deal about one thing like that though. I can understand that. But that was just one example, she's turned down a few as well. I'm just really confused why when we first met she was ghung ho, and this go around its the complete opposite and I feel like trying to get her to hang out is like pulling teeth. I'm ok with texting/phone calls, but only to a certain extent. I prefer in person interaction, I feel like I shine the best in that situation and enjoy it the most.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 It sounds like she is seeing someone else too, and doesn't want to date you in the event that things work out with the other guy.
Author Conviction Posted September 9, 2016 Author Posted September 9, 2016 It sounds like she is seeing someone else too, and doesn't want to date you in the event that things work out with the other guy. Possibility I've thought of as well. Which if that's the case, I'm not a fan of dating that way so it'll be time to move on.
Zahara Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Most recently, I asked her to dinner, and said she couldn't because she has stuff she needs to eat at her house before it spoils. That threw me for a loop. I think she is seeing other men and uses you as a filler when she needs attention. That comment should have sent you walking the other way.
preraph Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Look, you've known her for a long time. If you can't ask her about things like this by now, then maybe she really isn't the one to chase. 1
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