CFX Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 I can never see myself be in a relationship. Unfortunately, I was born with HBV and I have to pay for it the rest of my life even though I did nothing to deserve it. I was never in any relationship because of this problem. I've seen girls who showed interest in me, but I never gave them a chance because I'm afraid that I might develop strong feelings for them and I don't want to hurt them or myself. There were times when a girl would suggest that we go do something, but I always decline the offer. I'm just in fear that when I tell her about my condition that she will be put off and I'll just get hurt. And the fact is, I hate feeling this way. I don't want to feel this way, but I do. This burden prevents me from having a relationship with anyone. I just want to get this all out since it's killing me inside.
miss-gonewest Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 CFX, I was sorry to read your email... but don't give up hope! The world is full of interesting tales of love, romance and adversity that never cease to amaze me. I have no doubt that there is a woman out there that would love to be your companion, and a virus shouldn't stop her! I'm so sorry that I don't know more on the subject, but I've seen ads in the personal columns saying "Great hep guy, seeks hep girl" etc and I have also heard of support groups for singles. I don't know if you have explored these avenues, but don't give up hope OK?
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 Originally posted by CFX Unfortunately, I was born with HBV and I have to pay for it the rest of my life even though I did nothing to deserve it. I'm so sorry. This really sucks. If it's any consolation, I really respect you and think you're doing the right thing by being responsible even though it's difficult. We reap what we sow. And I think Miss GW's suggestion of checking out hep girls is a good one... are there support groups you could attend?
moimeme Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 There's a hepatitis B vaccine which is quite effective. There's no reason for you to isolate yourself forever. If someone cares enough about you, she'll get the vaccine. Many people already have had it if they've travelled to certain spots or if they are health care workers.
Just Ed Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 Hi CFX, I'm just in fear that when I tell her about my condition that she will be put off and I'll just get hurt. And the fact is, I hate feeling this way. I don't want to feel this way, but I do. Be honest with whom you meet. Telling girls the truth is a very confident move. Obviously you risk rejection, but the good girls who aren't shallow will recognize your courage and the man with it. However, you treat others how to treat you if you continually put false, foregone conclusions in your head. I know that there are lots of women who would rather be with someone of a healthy mind and spirit than with a healthy man who is miserable in mind and spirit... We were all given the hand that was dealt to us... you're unique like everybody else. If you're seeking a caring relationship, seek one with yourself first and be your own best friend... acknowledge your positives, and bring out the best in yourself. Girls do want to meet you and get to know you. Try not to believe that true happiness can only be attained by a physical connection with a girl... believe me, that's definitely not always the case! I can sense that you're a very sensitive person, to yourself and to others... you just need to allow a girl the opportunity to share in that .
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