fonz Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 I'm 16 she’s 14... I just met this girl that moved from Chicago and she was visiting my neighbor. My mom was over there at the time and she introduced us. After that we went out for a walk and we pretty much liked each other. At first I didn't ask her age, she could easily pass for 16/17. When I found out about her age. I said, I'm sure it wont be a problem. Now her mom found out about me and she is iffy on the subject. I mean I think her mom has the wrong idea about me; I'm not a sexed droved teen like she might think... What I'm looking for is some advice on the matter and some advice I should do about her mom. Is this age gap too big? Thanks a lot. Fonzi Link to post Share on other sites
Zaira Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 You're both young, so I don't see any problems with the age gap - although I'd be steering away from sexual activity. Just hang out and see how things go. I am sure her mother will see that there is nothing to be worried about. Just treat her daughter AND her with respect Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 Zaira's right on the mark--stay smart and don't get sexually involved with this girl at this time. Show her mom you're a decent guy who respects her daughter for who she is, and that you're not going to become possesive or pressuring of her, even if it means that you can only occasionally go out on dates. If her mom still won't let you two date now, do what she wishes. You're likely to get caught if you two snuck around dating, and then her mom would never trust you. Enjoy your time with her, regardless if it develops into a long term relationship or not. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
HatefuL_DruG Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 My boyfriend and I are 2 years apart in age (he being the oldest) and my parents were kind of iffy about it when they first met him. Of course he had long hair to his shoulders and an earring but they got to know him and realized that he was mature and a good person despite his appearence. Just take these people's advice, and stay away from sexual things for awhile to earn her mother's trust. Because if you guys are all over each other, there's no way they'll trust you. Link to post Share on other sites
scratch Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by fonz I'm 16 she’s 14... Is this age gap too big? I don't see the problem. If you think it would be fun to date her, date her. If her mom doesn't let you, well, she's 14 and her mom can probably stop her. If you think not doing anything sexually with her will make her mom less inclined to stop you, don't do anything sexually. Bottom line, decide what you want, and the best way to get it, and act accordingly. For the record, being a 16 year old boy interested in sex is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. Link to post Share on other sites
orta Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 A sixteen year-old who is interested in a fourteen year-old seems odd to me. At that age, two years is a lot of time. When you turn seventeen, in most states your relationship with this girl would be illegal, and mildly creepy. It might be better to find someone else. I can understand why her mother is not so sure about the subject. As far as the mother is concerned, you have to respect whatever she says, and so does her daughter. Link to post Share on other sites
Zaira Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by orta A sixteen year-old who is interested in a fourteen year-old seems odd to me. At that age, two years is a lot of time. When you turn seventeen, in most states your relationship with this girl would be illegal, and mildly creepy. It might be better to find someone else. I can understand why her mother is not so sure about the subject. As far as the mother is concerned, you have to respect whatever she says, and so does her daughter. From the age of 13, I "dated" guys at least 2 years older than me. Females mature faster than males, so it's not unreasonable that they may have a connection. Link to post Share on other sites
SassyBug Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 I agree there should be no SEXUAL ACTIVITY. 14 is too young for that, in my opinion. If it was my daughter and you were respectful to me and to her, then you would be allowed chaperoned dates. those are just my beliefs as a parent. get to know her as a good friend, its nice to do that! good luck Link to post Share on other sites
alex434 Posted July 9, 2005 Share Posted July 9, 2005 Originally posted by SassyBug I agree there should be no SEXUAL ACTIVITY. 14 is too young for that, in my opinion. If it was my daughter and you were respectful to me and to her, then you would be allowed chaperoned dates. those are just my beliefs as a parent. get to know her as a good friend, its nice to do that! good luck huh? chaperoned dates? thats um? stupid... im 16 and i go out with a 15 year old girl ( i known her for 2 and half years, on the internet ) we meet and we started going out ( 5 months july 15th ) she turn 16 in august so there isnt an age gap like that but never not once did me and her go on a chaperoned date, her mom drops me off, and i talk to her mom all the time, my suggestion is introducing yourself to her mom and show her how you are and make a good - impression, so she will feel safe and secure good luck!! Link to post Share on other sites
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