Springsummer Posted September 12, 2016 Posted September 12, 2016 I am not manipulative, and I am a woman!
Author Rockflower Posted September 24, 2016 Author Posted September 24, 2016 QuietStorm, Thank you! (I'm back), Yes, I agree - your words explain a gap in what I've been trying to figure out for years. I grew up in a conflict-avoidant family - which caused truly awful amounts of conflict and dysfunction. I though I was C-A ... but the reality is that I am not, it was my attempts at trying to deal with the conflict (when no-one else would) that led to me being seriously harmed. However, I now see just why I am so different (from my FOO), which is because I did try to deal, but the general consensus was to brush things under the carpet and 'keep the peace'. BYW - I don't agree that women are all manipulative. To me, it is an excuse to not stand up and deal with things. I included that reference as I was trying to illustrate a view from the other side. Apathy - yes, maybe. Selfish - yes, definitely. Cowardly too. I also think it is an excuse to say that all men only want to sleep with women and cannot be friends. That is black and white thinking ... self-preserving and egotistical. Otherwise, ALL men would have affairs. So what about the married women that instigate affairs? Stand up and be accountable - that's my belief ... even if it hurts to do so. RF x 1
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