Penelopyre Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 (edited) I'll try to shorten my story as much as I can. I have been an integral part of a certain online game for over a year now. Myself and a medium sized group of people on there, my guild, have logged on tirelessly every day for basically the entire year. Now, there was this one guy in that guild that I was growing closer to, slowly becoming better friends with. Then, about six months ago, we became genuine friends, and since then we've been talking several times a week online, if not every day. I have confirmation that he is who he says he is, safety isn't an issue here. The problem is that he's six years older than me(Though we're both adults, no worries), we live three states away from each other(in the USA), we've only voice chatted once, and all of our contact comes from words on a screen. Yet, despite all that, over the past few months I've fallen hard for him. I can't stop thinking about him, our conversations, our shared stories, everything. We've both gone to great lengths to keep seeing each other online consistently, supporting each other through tough times. I could go on, but the point is, we've bonded very closely. I don't know if this is love or not, but it's something powerful. So my question is, am I crazy? Have I totally lost it for caring so strongly and so genuinely for someone whose only form of communication has been text on a computer screen? Edited September 9, 2016 by Penelopyre
Mr. Lucky Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 So my question is, am I crazy? Have I totally lost it for caring so strongly and so genuinely for someone whose only form of communication has been text on a computer screen? Given the easy availability of video chat, why hasn't there been an effort to at least take things to that level? Mr. Lucky
Toodaloo Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 You are not crazy but you are allowing your emotions to run off with you. This is probably one of those transient friendships that blossoms then disappears when life changes. Do not allow yourself to get all worked up over this. Chances are if you meet in real life you will not fancy or like each other very much. Be careful with your emotions.
Toodaloo Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Oh and get off the computer and into the real world... Reality is always much more fulfilling than fantasy... Spending that much time on it is not good for your physical or mental health. 1
PrettyEmily77 Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Seems like you've made a good friend. For anything else to develop, you're going to have to see what he's like in person. That really is the only way. 1
Popsicle Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 I have a coworker who met his online long distance gf through gaming. They live several states away and are "soooo in love". So in love that they forsake all other opportunities in real life (because their online love is so special). They have met in person and are supposed to move together but it's been about 5 years now and nothings happened. I don't think anything will. The fantasy romance of being online is better than the real thing for them, I believe. My advice is to stay away from LDR's no matter what. Waste of time. 1
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