leogirl876 Posted September 8, 2016 Posted September 8, 2016 I'm going to play devil's advocate for a minute. Perhaps she has a problem with it because her previous boyfriend did it to excess. I can speak from experience, my ex-boyfriend watched porn and masturbated so much that it caused him to have ED and we barely had a sex life. It was not fulfilling at all. I asked him to cut back on it and that's when he accused me of trying to be controlling. Not controlling jerk, I was us to have sex and I want a boyfriend to have a weiner that works! So, I finally just dumped him because I was so sick of his ED problems, and trust me, I tried everything to help, was very patient, etc. So maybe this is where she's coming from. I honestly couldn't date someone again who had a problem like that because it never got better. 1
mizunomead Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 I agree on the question of how is your sex life. I can also see not watching porn. However, unless she is there at the ready to help out every time when needed then she needs to work through her Insecurities a bit.
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Men I've been with sexually or boyfriends I've always encouraged them to masturbate. I've been masturbating since I was 14 and see it as a healthy part of sexual exploration. You could always masturbate each other. That might help her to accept it a little more
joseb Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Men I've been with sexually or boyfriends I've always encouraged them to masturbate. I've been masturbating since I was 14 and see it as a healthy part of sexual exploration. You could always masturbate each other. That might help her to accept it a little more To be honest it's even more basic for guys. It's like something I do when I get up in the morning. Asking me not to do it is like asking me not to brush my teeth. I could comply, but it would bother me all day...
ttherrera Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 This is totally too much! Porn aside, masturbating is definitely a very normal act of human being especially for a man. There's nothing wrong with it. Talk to her about it saying that it's very important to sex life. It keeps your sex health to be strong as well as giving more pleasure during sexual intercourse.
basil67 Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Another hand up for insecure and naive. My best advice is to say what you've said here. You will quit porn but not the occasional fap. She can process that information and do as she pleases. The main thing is that you don't pretend to agree to something which you have no intention of sticking with. Be true to yourself and let her decide.
smackie9 Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 What if it was turned around and a guy was telling his GF to not masturbate...what would be the advice then? IMO this should be a dealbreaker. I wouldn't stick around and wait for them to "get over it".
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