She went silent

[black swan]

so while on holidays over the summer in the country where i am originally from, i started going out on dates with a girl i knew from many years ago and i was introduced to her by my aunt back in time. at that time we just got to know each other with a potential romantic future. but nothing came out of it, as we only met 1-2 times. 5-6 years forward to this summer, my aunt somehow re ignited her interest and she said she was interested in me (you have to love these aunts!). so when i went back home for holidays (live and work abroad)we went on many dates but because our families know each other, i knew she wanted something very serious, we hang out at the same beach and obviously we dont live in the same countries, i was very careful not to mention anything about a relationship until i was sure i wanted to do all this. so i didnt even attempt to kiss her, which was obvious that she wanted. that was probably a mistake but anyway. But i invited her to come for holidays in about a couple of month's time where i am in order to pursue things further. she was very positive on the idea.

so since i left, i thought the nice thing to do would be to keep almost daily contact through fb, viber, phonecalls, to show my interest. it was going ok for a week, but i noticed that whenever i tried or asked her to call her (a couple of times)to speak to her on the phone, she always found an excuse. so that didnt materialise. i got the impression that she thought i was going to tell her all these things i didnt tell her over summer, and maybe she either isnt ready, or she would refuse so didnt want confrontation. Also, it was apparent that she liked me a lot when we dated, many times initiating the dates. and i liked her back of course. and then she went silent. so although i have sent her a couple of messages, she ignored them. she hasnt even checked them because i suppose she doesnt want to have the "seen" word next to them. in her mind , that is fine! i just dont do hollywood style dating with all the dating tricks. i hate that and i find it immature. so that silent treatment i have to say made me want her more, but at the same time brought so many bad feelings for no reason, and i found it completely unnecessary (i am 39 she is 31).

i am not quite sure what to do now. i thought of sending her a message saying that i really like her and want something serious(which i want as i made up my mind now), because for me things in life are simple and is always nice to say the truth, or i guess the other scenario is to dont contact her again and wait and see if she ever contacts me again. and i dont really deserve an immature silent behaviour, as our dates were very platonic up to this point.

she is a girl with such a good personality, but to be honest, that silent treatment shocked me a bit. Any advice welcome

[amiller321]

Yeah it never hurts to tell the truth. If you told her you could at least say you tried your hardest and hopefully move on if she doesn't respond. Either way stick to your life the happniess that surrounds it. It sounds cheesy, but it is true.