Lethalkiss Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 (edited) Well,here's the deal. I've been with this guy for about half a month.We met at vacation,and upon returning to hometown(we live in the same city) we decided to call this a relationship and not just leave it behind,as a common summer love.He is kind,honest,sometimes fun ,and seems like he really likes me. We also have some same interests,such as books ,and games.However,things haven't been working lately as I thought they should.When we are not surrounded by his many many friends,we seem to have nothing to talk about. He doesn't want to share anything from his past,present or future thoughts,and therefore,it's making me uncomfortable to share things too. I fear that he is either too guarded or too shallow.Of course I wasn't expecting of him to pour an emotional drama on me,but at least to show that he is not just a machine,that he has a soft ,understanding side. When I mention some problems(of everyday life for example) of mine ,he starts saying that I have too many psychological issues to solve ,whether I'm talking about something serious or not. I know he may be doing this "just for fun",but it really bothers me that we barely talk.Physical attraction and body language are important,but I'm afraid that we have a real communication problem,and I really don't know how to get him to speak.. Edited September 7, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
CarrieT Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 You established a relationship in a "fairy tale" atmosphere of a vacation - a time when everyone acts differently and has different expectations. Now you are back to reality and have found that the fairy tale isn't living up to every day life. I know what that is like: I worked the Renaissance Fair circuit for years and there were always relationships that would start under the guise of a costume and a personae that couldn't hold up to not being at fair. Sounds like you are experiencing that sort of scenario and since you are only two weeks into it, call it quits and a lesson learned. 1
JewelD Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 You're probably just not a good match. If you clicked, it wouldn't be difficult to have fulfilling conversations. I'd end things and leave it in the past.
Gaeta Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 You had fun for 2 weeks vacations and now you discover he is boring and closed off, time to call it quits. You don't fix a 2 week fling, you move on to someone better suited for you.
Author Lethalkiss Posted September 8, 2016 Author Posted September 8, 2016 Thank you all for your replies.. I don't know why I fear of dumping him..he seemed like a real catch in the first place and that's what really gets me confused,how could I miss the compatibility signs.. But what if I could make him talk? Do you think it's impossible?
leogirl876 Posted September 8, 2016 Posted September 8, 2016 Thank you all for your replies.. I don't know why I fear of dumping him..he seemed like a real catch in the first place and that's what really gets me confused,how could I miss the compatibility signs.. But what if I could make him talk? Do you think it's impossible? You missed the signs because you were on vacation in fantasy land! Neither of you were really yourself. Now that you're back to reality and in the real world, you're finding out you're not a match. Time for you to move on! And you can't make anyone do anything, you can try to talk to them but if they're not willing, then you move on!
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