jimbo_G Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 So I was with this girl for 8 months and things were great until the last few months. Our connection was fading and conversation was getting stale. We basically saw each other every day and I know I was moving too fast even though she told me she loved me only after a month or two into dating one another. Over the last few months I began questioning who she was talking too etc but my insecurities came from her kissing another guy about 6 months into the relationship. She told me right after it happened but again I'm sure I've held onto some of those feelings that were a result from that. I sent her some dumb text messages a few weeks before she broke up with me and our last conversation ended with her telling me not to call her or text her. I respected those wishes and less than a week later she sent me a text asking me if I wanted to stop by? This was around 10:00pm on a Sunday night. We talked for a few hours, held hands, kissed a handful of times and she didn't pull away once. She said she is very confused right now and I told her she knows how I feel and that I don't want to lose her. She then said when she gets back into town in a few weeks after traveling for work that we should go out to dinner.. I sent her a few texts the day after and she texted me back. She was heading out of town the next day and she told me what was going on and sent our normal "goodnight" text. I waited a few days to contact her again and she was very quick to reply and she told me all about her work day etc. What should I do next? I don't want to lose this girl as I'm very much in love and the two weeks without her really proved that to me.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 OP, you need to be very careful here. You might be in love with her, but a woman in love with you would not jeopardize her relationship by kissing someone else. For her to have been able to do that, she wasn't totally committed to you. I think her confusion lies not in the fact that you sent a so-called "dumb" text but rather that she isn't sure she feels the same way about you anymore. 1
aloneinaz Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 I also think she simply isn't feeling it with you anymore. 6 months is typically the time frame where you know if the relationship can build to even more. If the talk was stale and you've been not getting along great the past few months? Yea, it's time to move on to something else because she is. Listen, don't let your sudden loneliness convince you that you miss HER. More than likely, you're simply missing that female companionship. Everyone does after suddenly becoming single again. It's natural and normal. My advice is cut contact w/her, heal and when ready start dating again. You met her and you'll meet someone else.
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