Icould Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Hi I've been chatting to a girl constantly for around 3 months now, we first met as a relative was unwell as she was visiting also (she's my cousin's cousin not related to me at all). I live quite far away and we've hit it off from the get go, I had to tell her how much I like her which went down quite well. She has told me she really likes me and has feelings towards me. The past week or more shes been asking for cuddles at night, which I kept it clean but trying to keep a bit of arousal there. She also said after all that she can't believe she turned down staying over for cuddles when she had the chance. No matter what she would be doing she would message me back but today when I messaged she just replied with "I'll message you tomorrow a bit busy atm". Tomorrow is a bit extreme?would it not be before bed at least? She did reply to a message from the night before this morning and I got up quite late today, is she just in a mood cos I slept all day? I know she could be actually busy but I've seen that shes just visiting her nana which she's done for the past few months without a problem messaging me. I just replied ok *name* a blow kiss emotion with a few kisses and left it like that. (now just giving her space but it's unlike her) She just returned to college a few days ago so I've been trying to give her some space and now I'm thinking is there someone a bit more exciting filling my space? I don't like messaging her at college as it's a bit like talking to a wall but I do try as shes occupied with other stuff. I do really like this girl and don't want to **** it up but I think I have. She does try make me jealous from time to time as she knows it does get to me as I live so far away. I could make her jealous but that's not what I like doing it only puts thoughts in their head. I do message her more than I would like too, I sometimes say something cute/compliment and want that to stick in her head but she carrys on talking. I feel like shes putting a shield up as of late not sure if it's cos she really does like me and doesn't want me to think shes ugly or getting fat. she used to send me pictures of ****loads of chocolate on snapchat which I told her I don't care if she eats chocolate but she keeps saying shes getting fat which I say shes not fat etc. The distance is gonna kill it before it even starts? I haven't even kissed her yet, but over text I've kissed her all over. My head if all over the place, I will be in her area in a few weeks visiting my relatives but I don't think we will get to see each other and I'll be going out quite alot. Where I live is really rural I don't go out that much but when I visit relatives I know there will be tons of women about. What do I do? The time I was over and she turned down staying, she asked did I pull? I told her the truth and said nearly but I got cockblocked. as soon as she heard that thats when she started telling me how much she does like me. Now I feel like if I get with another girl just for company whilst im on holiday she will get the hump, but I don't want to regret not seeing other girls incase shes just taking the pee. I told my sister when I first seen this girl that I like her and my sister was like really? I can do better. I've went on dates with girls better looking than her in the past but I just feel like shes the one, her personality is great and she really is attractive to me. I would've moved closer to my relatives so we could be together but moving is a bit of a big decision for it to not work out. Is it a good sign when she tell's me she's feeling unwell and tell me when shes on her period? or am I being friendzoned? thanks for any advice.
bummer Posted September 8, 2016 Posted September 8, 2016 Where I live is really rural I don't go out that much but when I visit relatives I know there will be tons of women about. What do I do? Whoa. Cuddles to talking about trying to pull other women and you think she's friendzoning you because she's sick? I would say date further outside your family, even if extended, and pull better women as your sister said. But really, until then, see where it goes and tell us what happened next?
Author Icould Posted September 8, 2016 Author Posted September 8, 2016 (edited) Whoa. Cuddles to talking about trying to pull other women and you think she's friendzoning you because she's sick? I would say date further outside your family, even if extended, and pull better women as your sister said. But really, until then, see where it goes and tell us what happened next? She was hinting more at being a friend that's why she didn't stay for the cuddles just before I came to visit the second time she decided not too. That's why when I went out I thought I might aswel get with someone as I won't be back to see relatives in quite a while so it's not like id have the oppurtunity to see her anyways. When I got back home she was chatting away then asked about did i pull which I told her the truth, not long after started telling me she has feelings for me. Since then my relatives have offered me to come stay with them for 10days in a few weeks from now as they enjoyed having me there. That's why I'm unsure what to do this time as I will be away with my relatives for a majority of it and if there's women there do I do anything? Where I live I don't see many women it's literally in the middle of nowhere lol so I'd be annoyed a bit if I turn down any other women interested to then for her to say no on the last day to seeing me. I could be overthinking as she might not even want to see me by then again anyways. The cuddles were flat out this week everynight, then yesterday when I replied she just text "I'm busy I'll message you tomorrow" which she hasn't messaged yet. She has sent some generic snapchats to keep the streak alive which is a good sign I guess lol. It's a waiting game, I'd be gutted if she did say something like she's met someone else and is deleting me but I'd rather it happen sooner rather than later so I can move on I feel a bit in limbo currently and all I can do is think of her even when not messaging so a bit head wrecking. Thanks for reading, It's just nice to have any opinion than my mind getting carried away so if you need me to clarify let me know . Edited September 8, 2016 by Icould
Author Icould Posted September 9, 2016 Author Posted September 9, 2016 (edited) I messaged her this morning just saying "Morning,Hope you have a good day today xx" but no reply. She's put up on facebook a picture saying "stop texting them first and watch y'all never talk again" so I take this is a hint to leave her alone? (I messaged asking if shes ok, but no reply). Edited September 9, 2016 by Icould
Just a Guy Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Hi I could, if you want this girl to take notice of you, just go cold on her and stop messaging her. That will get her attention and she will probably message you. If she does, reply to her but do not show eagerness or excitement on receiving her message. Just be matter of fact and let it lie. Once the ball is in her court let her do the chasing for a bit before you respond in kind. Hope this helps.
Author Icould Posted September 9, 2016 Author Posted September 9, 2016 (edited) Hi I could, if you want this girl to take notice of you, just go cold on her and stop messaging her. That will get her attention and she will probably message you. If she does, reply to her but do not show eagerness or excitement on receiving her message. Just be matter of fact and let it lie. Once the ball is in her court let her do the chasing for a bit before you respond in kind. Hope this helps. Thanks Just a Guy, What should I do about this snapsnap streak? We're currently on 21 days (if you don't send a picture of anything you lose it and start from 0 again). I know this will make her mad but maybe this is what I want? but then she might think well i have no need to even keep sending him snaps at all? She is still sending me them daily showing what shes up too etc but none specifically to me anymore. I only use snapchat for her and she knows this should I post on facebook looking for more people to add me? I was never a picture taker until she recommend snapchat. I could put pictures up on snapchat but not send directly to her but she will know what im doing if shes only person i have added on it. You are right about the chasing for sure, I have been too responsive to her and nice at times. When I'm at my relatives it's gonna be awkward if I do see her and I'm not sure what will happen if she suddenly wants to betray me and tell people what I've said about them Edited September 9, 2016 by Icould
Author Icould Posted September 10, 2016 Author Posted September 10, 2016 I don't know what to do, she has sent around 8 snapchats to me today (just showing pics of what shes doing, I've only sent a black screen to her for the streaks. I opened the snaps hours and hours after they were sent and I haven't replied with anything at all should I be commenting or keep blanking until she initiates a convo?
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