itsdinaah Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months now. He's a sweet guy but sometimes seems clueless as to how to be with a girl since I'm his second girlfriend. The problem is that he can go days without talking to me. Every time I bring it up he swears he will try but then he inevitably goes back to not contacting me for days. I'm kind of sick of always having to nag him about contact and I know he' tired of it too. When we see each other it's great but the time we don't see each other is the hard part. He's been like this with communication for a few months now. Should we just break up or do you think there's hope?
BaileyB Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Do you contact him during these periods of time that he will go days without talking to you?
Gaeta Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Time to break up. The purpose of dating is to find someone compatible to enhance each others life. If he drives you crazy at 6 months and had been driving you crazy for months and you are not meant to be together. On a side note a man that is interested in you won't leave you with no news for days at 6 months dating. This man is not interested in connecting with you, he's interested in getting his fun on regular basis with not too much effort.
Author itsdinaah Posted September 7, 2016 Author Posted September 7, 2016 Do you contact him during these periods of time that he will go days without talking to you? No I don't. I've realized from personal experience that its better to let the guy contact first. I periodically send encouraging messages when he's having a bad or stressful week.
Gaeta Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 No I don't. I've realized from personal experience that its better to let the guy contact first. I periodically send encouraging messages when he's having a bad or stressful week. Is this a long distance relationship?
Author itsdinaah Posted September 7, 2016 Author Posted September 7, 2016 Is this a long distance relationship? No we live like 20 mins away from each other and I see him once or twice a week.
BaileyB Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 No I don't. I've realized from personal experience that its better to let the guy contact first. I periodically send encouraging messages when he's having a bad or stressful week. When you are first dating, yes. But, after a few dates, you should feel ok to initiate contact with him anytime. And when you have been dating for 6 months, it shouldn't matter anymore who is contacting who... In fact, it would be a problem if one person always has the responsibility to initiate communication. If you haven't heard from him and you want to talk to him, send him a text or call him. Now, if he doesn't reply... That's another story. 1
Gaeta Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 No we live like 20 mins away from each other and I see him once or twice a week. May I ask how old you are? 6 months dating, and 1 to 2 dates a week, only 20 minutes apart and days with no news from him that is not dating, that is a pretending to date. He is nowhere serious about you.
leogirl876 Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Time to break up, you don't sound compatible! There's no point in trying to make someone to be compatible when you're not. It never works out and you both end up being miserable. Find someone who wants to talk to you as much as you want to talk to them.
Author itsdinaah Posted September 7, 2016 Author Posted September 7, 2016 May I ask how old you are? 6 months dating, and 1 to 2 dates a week, only 20 minutes apart and days with no news from him that is not dating, that is a pretending to date. He is nowhere serious about you. I'm 22 and he's 28. He just starting acting like this recently.
Author itsdinaah Posted September 7, 2016 Author Posted September 7, 2016 He texted saying "It will get better. If I keep pushing him like this it won't and we won't fix this problem." And he also said "It's my mistake, not yours. I don't know how to treat a girl well and how to communicate constantly."
Gaeta Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 I'm 22 and he's 28. He just starting acting like this recently. You have a thread back in February where he ignored you for 4 days. He also told you he once ignored his girlfriend for an entire month to punish her. Your boyfriend is 28, he knows how to be a good boyfriend, he just chooses to be an arse. No matter how bad he treats you there you are standing by and waiting. This is not how dating is suppose to be. You are the one with no experience and he is using this to keep you in a mediocre relationship. 2
Gaeta Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 He texted saying "It will get better. If I keep pushing him like this it won't and we won't fix this problem." And he also said "It's my mistake, not yours. I don't know how to treat a girl well and how to communicate constantly." He is 28 YEARS OLD. He is not a child anymore. A romantic relationship is no different than a friendship relationship, family relationship or work relationship!! You think he doesn't call his boss back for 4 days and then tell him sorry I don't know how to be in a work relationship?? 2
BaileyB Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 He texted saying "It will get better. If I keep pushing him like this it won't and we won't fix this problem." And he also said "It's my mistake, not yours. I don't know how to treat a girl well and how to communicate constantly." That's not good. You are not pushing him to communicate with you everyday if you are in your 20's and you've been dating for 6 months. You shouldn't feel bad about that. And the fact that this has recently changed... It makes me wonder what is happening with him. He is right however when he says it is his problem. If he doesn't know how to treat a girl well or communicate consistently, he had best learn that soon...mid be out the door! He could work on it with the next girl he dates... You deserve more than what you are getting. Sorry
BaileyB Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 I agree with Gaeta, he's being an arse. Not ok to go for a month without talking to your girlfriend to punish her. This guy doesn't deserve a girlfriend if that's how he treats women! 1
Author itsdinaah Posted September 7, 2016 Author Posted September 7, 2016 You have a thread back in February where he ignored you for 4 days. He also told you he once ignored his girlfriend for an entire month to punish her.. That was another guy actually. I met this one after I broke up with that guy. It started as a rebound relationship but turned more serious.
Author itsdinaah Posted September 7, 2016 Author Posted September 7, 2016 I agree with Gaeta, he's being an arse. Not ok to go for a month without talking to your girlfriend to punish her. This guy doesn't deserve a girlfriend if that's how he treats women! That was another guy. This one has only had onee girlfriend before me and they broke up when he moved to another state.
Author itsdinaah Posted September 7, 2016 Author Posted September 7, 2016 This guy hasn't been in a relationship in 4 years.
Gaeta Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 That was another guy actually. I met this one after I broke up with that guy. It started as a rebound relationship but turned more serious. How is this relationship serious? He lives 20 minutes away, ignores you for days, and sees you 1-2 times a week.
Gaeta Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 This guy hasn't been in a relationship in 4 years. So? I was single for 10 years. People don't forget how to be in relationships. They want to be in relationships and act like it or they don't. Your boyfriend does not act like a man wanting to be in a relationship. 2
Gaeta Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 That was another guy actually. I met this one after I broke up with that guy. It started as a rebound relationship but turned more serious. Your last boyfriend ignored you and this one does the same. What does that tell you? Aren't you tired of this? Why don't you find yourself a nice man that WANTS to be in a relationship with you and acts like it? 1
Zahara Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 And he also said "It's my mistake, not yours. I don't know how to treat a girl well and how to communicate constantly." Then he shouldn't be in a relationship. And you shouldn't tolerate being in a once/twice a week meet up and disappear for days 6 month relationship. 1
joseb Posted September 8, 2016 Posted September 8, 2016 When you say he ignores you, do you call or message him and he does not reply for days? Or is it that you two have a conversation and then neither of you contacts the other one for days?
Author itsdinaah Posted September 8, 2016 Author Posted September 8, 2016 Your last boyfriend ignored you and this one does the same. What does that tell you? Aren't you tired of this? Why don't you find yourself a nice man that WANTS to be in a relationship with you and acts like it? I'm not sure why I keep running into guys like this.
Author itsdinaah Posted September 8, 2016 Author Posted September 8, 2016 When you say he ignores you, do you call or message him and he does not reply for days? Or is it that you two have a conversation and then neither of you contacts the other one for days? We have a conversation then don't contact for days.
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