Lobe Posted September 8, 2016 Posted September 8, 2016 Of course you can take offense to it. I know your story and you are justified in your feelings. But you have to stop expecting him to act like someone in a normal relationship. There is nothing normal about these things. The question is, if he is cold to you after every encounter, why do you keep going back? He's not going to change. You have to change. I'm with midnight on this one Lost. The very definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Your options are simple if you cannot bear to end it - cling to the idea that you're going to get what you need from the relationship and continue slapping yourself in the face with the reassuring disappointment you've come to know and love, or accept that you will never get what you need from this relationship and choose to be grateful instead of complaining or feeling confused when you get exactly what you signed up for. Lost, you're wasting so much time and energy on this POS. And for what? A boatload of heartache, that's what. You'll get there. Sooner or later you'll tire of the head games and reclaim your sanity. This is me, blowing as hard as I can on the fog you're encased in... ~ ~ . . (0) (yeah, that's some mad drawing talents there lol)
sandylee1 Posted September 8, 2016 Posted September 8, 2016 Stillafool- I am a pretty attractive female with quite a bit of confidence and pride. But it still hurts when someone you had a deep friendship/connection/A/R with blocks you or deletes you. It's one of those things that's easy to give advice about but when it happens to u, you will feel the dig. Trust me! I think if you were married and your husband wanted to maintain contact with his EXOW, you'd understand it's not a good idea and is pretty disrespectful to your spouse. You may be able to be just friends .... but maybe he can't. Blocking is best for all concerned at times. 2
privategal Posted September 8, 2016 Posted September 8, 2016 (edited) I think if you were married and your husband wanted to maintain contact with his EXOW, you'd understand it's not a good idea and is pretty disrespectful to your spouse. You may be able to be just friends .... but maybe he can't. Blocking is best for all concerned at times. Well said. This is not a game, he just wants out without drama and is choosing no more guilt or cheating and avoiding an intense convo about it as his mind is made up, he chooses his marriage, her feelings matter, and his mostly, but yours do not. He had his fill, he's done. Edited September 8, 2016 by privategal 3
stillafool Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Now, he can see a sexy woman he can't have ... screw em. For that matter there are thousands of sexy women he can't have. 1
lemondrop21 Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 I don't know that he's necessarily done with you but at this time he is enjoying telling himself that he is, because it helps assuage his guilt. "Look what a good and faithful husband I am (now) being, I blocked her so she can't cast her magic spell on me, forcing me to put my d*ck inside her." (I'm assuming there was no DDay - if there was then it may be a gesture of solidarity with BS). Once you tire of feeling like a discarded piece of trash afterward every time he sleeps with you (which he still may be willing to do in time) then you'll finally block him and no longer have these concerns. I thought that blocking him would be an awful feeling but it's been liberating so far (I'm on day 5). I have my moments of sadness but the "no new hurts" thing is comforting. But I truly had to be pushed to this point. I hope you'll have the strength to get there more quickly than I did. 3
MidnightBlue1980 Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 Oh, midnight - I have missed you lol Thanks Lobe. I noticed you were MIA. Good to see you back! My defense mechanism is sarcasm and being mean. What is the point of being yet another sad soul over some total loser who cannot get a hard on? I can do better than that. I'm practicing the "fake it till you make it" bee-a-ch mode. Screw these guys. I feel bad at times but you'll never see it again, not publicly. Neither will he. 1
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