kingjeremy Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 we broke up a month ago, after our holiday, then about a week after that she continued staying over my place every other day, we would be doing the same things that we used to do as a couple, watching tv, cuddling in bed, kissing ect, however no sex, then a week after our break up we argued, and she got aggressive with me, scratched my face, punched me busted my lips, the next day she sends messages to my friends with the bruises that i apparently gave her, she had sent a photo of her fist bruised her thigh with a bruise that is pretty much healed, however she had the same bruise from our holiday in barcelona, i have the pictures to prove it, but shes still adamant i did it, 3 weeks later we hadnt spoken , and she was moving from london to luton, so i gave took the rest of her things to her and we spoke a bit, then i left, the next day she messaged me if i wanted to come over for food and tv, so like a numpty i went over, because i love her, and wanted to salvage what we had, we had a good time, when i was leaving i said id like to be here when you move to luton tomorrow, and she said no, it was hard for her, and that we needed time away form each other, so i accepted her wishes and was not there when she moved, however an hour after moving to luton, she messaged me asking me where i was, and so i called her, and she was crying saying she missed me and her landlord had conned her out of the room she wanted and that he wouldn't give her money back, so she asked me to come down and help her get her money back, so again i like a blind fool in love i went , got her money back, packed all her things into the car and went to a bed and breakfast for two nights, during that time, it was great, everything was perfect, then out of nowhere she said, why i was here and that she didn't want me here and that she hated me, and that i was a D**Khead, i hope you die and so on, so she kicked me out of the room, and wouldn't give my belongings, and told me to f-off, so around midnight yesterday i was still outside the hotel room, no place to sleep and without my belonging, i asked the manager to open the door, when he did she started shouting and pushing me about, i tried to ask her what she was doing , and why she was like this and she pushed me out of the room, and still wouldn't give my things back, so i took her mobile, in exchange for my things, she calls the police up, and gets me arrested, i spend the night in a cell! she also has coke a weed problems, shes on it constantly! what i want to ask is, has anyone suffered similar brakups, whats kind of person is like this to the person they loved, or maybe still loves, there are situations ive read and been told by people that hate and anger stems from love and care, if that person didn't , then would they really be this much hate in someones heart for their former partner. what can i do now in this situation? will she call or contact me once the dust has settled, and should i ignore her if she does? Thanks 1
stillafool Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 This girl sounds like a Loser. Let her go before you end up in jail and ruin your life. She's not worth it. 1
GorillaTheater Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 You'd have to be completely nuts to ever speak to her or communicate with her in any way ever again. 2
Toodaloo Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Oh my days no. Just no. Go home forget this girl. You have done more than enough to help her out and she has thrown it in your face. Do not get involved with the crazy... 1
LostOnes05 Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 If she needed to speak with me, she'd do it through my lawyer. No way in the world I'd ever associate with her again. I'd also plan on suing her and the police for unlawful arrest and defamation of character. If your stuff was in the room and she didn't let you retrieve it, that's theft. Leave this character alone. You don't want to be the simp doing prison time and still claiming to love a woman (with a coke and weed problem) that's having the time of her life while you're locked up for something you didn't do. That's just a No on all accounts. 1
springy Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 You still want to reconcile/continue in some sort of relationship with this woman. Are you for real? 2
Satu Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 This is all I have to say: *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means she might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. *No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Take care.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 If you care about your future at all, you will never speak to her again. Why would even consider it? 1
Zahara Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 what can i do now in this situation? Block. Move on. will she call or contact me once the dust has settled, and should i ignore her if she does?Thanks Whaaaaa?! You would have to be a bigger nutter to entertain this woman again. Infact I think you are just as toxic as she is to even ask the question. You should be eliminating this woman out of your life. In love with her -- don't confuse toxicity for love. 2
angel.eyes Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 The first deal breaker should have been the coke/weed problem. The second deal breaker would have been the character assassination to your friends claiming you assaulted her and gave her bruises. Given the toxic relationship and your nasty breakup, it was poor judgement (and I'm being generous here) to run after and "save" a liar and/or to "help" her get her money back from her new landlord who allegedly stiffed her. I'm curious, how were you planning to get money from the landlord? By threat? Force? Stealing? And this for someone who lied and claimed you beat her? Anyway, time to go back home to London, lick your bruises, and buy new clothes or whatever it was she confiscated of yours. Consider it a small price to pay for the life lesson she just gave you. If those belongings had any value, I'm sure they've been sold by now...refer to deal breaker #1. Block...delete...ignore. No further contact with her. 1
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