Sunnymae Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 After4 months, I have no expectations, I don't expect him to call, I don't expect him to text, I don't expect him to be romantically interested in me, I don't even expect him to be my friend. At this point, I wouldn't want him, even though he said what would it be like if we lived together. I'm not falling for his false hopes. I'm not as emotional. Yea, I still think of him, but it's without emotions. No intensity in the feelings. I know I will never entertain the thought of him and I being together again. The pain of his rejection has been too great to ever go down that path again. I avoid checking any social media. I have had contact with him, but it's been very limited, and formal. The contact actually has helped me work through this. It's helped rewire my brain to see him as someone other then a lover. I'm starting to see everything in perspective. I know some of what is going on in his life. I know that the His OLD is not going as he expected, that he's not the Casanova he thought he'd be. And NO I will not be your plan B. I'm guarding my heart. 3
privategal Posted September 8, 2016 Posted September 8, 2016 You can start to heal and move on when you completely go NC. There isn't any use for you to know what's going on in his life and if he is happy. You need to stop talking to him on social media (block and unfriend) and on any phone email or app. Keeping contact in any way is like picking a scab and prevents healing. Also talking appears friendly and you can't go to the source of your pain to heal. Let go, NC. Best wishes. 2
juniorrocha Posted September 8, 2016 Posted September 8, 2016 Staying in contact may seem like something that's good for you, but actually it's not. Maybe right now it hasn't done too much to you, but what about when he starts dating someone else? What about when you find more about his life, or how happy he is? Believe me, while I didn't stay in contact with my EX, I still left every way of communication open. Deep inside I had hopes one day she'd come after me. Which in fact she did. Just to hurt me even more. Break any connection, leave him for good, and work 100% on yourself. This is the quickest way to get over someone. 2
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