christaylor Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Here's something I've always struggled with. So I message someone, we exchange a few texts and when it feels right, I suggest going for a drink. If they agree, great news. If it's in two or three days time, I would drop them a message on the day to confirm where we're going. But if it's not for a week or more, I'm never sure whether or not to keep that dialogue open and, if so, how much. I don't want to learn everything about them before we meet or risk coming off boring / clingy by asking 'How was your day?' but I also don't want to risk them flaking because they've forgotten what it was about me that made them say yes in the first place. Any thoughts?
smudge21 Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 If the texting has been equal (between who initiates and how many times) and constant, then I wouldn't cut it off totally after arranging a date/meet up. Maybe slow it down a bit though - like not texting during work times or whatever. Oh and never ignore a text, but don't reply instantly.
Author christaylor Posted September 7, 2016 Author Posted September 7, 2016 Good idea. Thanks for the response. Now that I look back it's pretty damn equal so looks like there's an equal interest. Maybe in a couple of days I'll send something. Cheers
PogoStick Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Well, I set most dates up via phone anyway so I'll just have a short conversation. Then if it's going to be around a week or more I'll consider another short phone call for a few minutes. Texting, you have to feel it out a bit, but a couple texts every 2-3 days should be fine. Consider even asking directly how much contact is normal for her.
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