Checked an ex's FB after 6 months

[bubbl]

Hi there

 

I have recently posted about an ex I broke up with 2 weeks ago. This is not the ex i'm referring to in this current post, but my previous ex of 6 years. I thought he was the one but he wasn't. He was emotionally abusive & manipulative and it only took hindsight for me to figure this out. He was cold, distant and selfish.

 

I had blocked him on all forms of social media after the breakup, but out of curiousity I unblocked him on FB and looked at his page earlier today. Honestly, all I felt was anger - anger that I had been in a relationship so long with this guy. Anger that all his friends were commenting on how great he was (he has landed a superb role in one of the best universities in the world) and no one knows what a complete douchebag of a boyfriend he could be. But a big part of me didn't care- and I'm so happy I dodged a bullet and i'm not with him anymore. Mostly, I am angry at myself for lost time, but hey, I was young, naive and in love and I know much, much better now. I would never accept the same treatment again and i can see it for what it is now.

 

Not sure why I checked up on him. Maybe I was just messed up after my most recent breakup and curiousity got the better of me.

 

Thanks for reading- and apologies- just blurting out my random thoughts.

 

However, as someone posted here recently, know that you really have dodged a bullet. And you will get over even the most painful breakups and long drawn-out relationships in time.

[marky00]

You probably thought it wouldn't affect you at all. But, truth be told, a 6 year relationship will probably always stir up at least a little bit of emotion, even in years from now.

 

 

Also, your recent 6 month relationship wasn't that long so that 6 year one takes on more significance.

[bubbl]

True, Mark.

 

Realised it's been more like 7.5 months since looking at old ex's FB. Yea, the ange means I'm not completely over it I guess. Although I'd never go back. And those intense feelings of missing them are gone.

[Satu]

As I said in my journal:

 

 

"Why you shouldn't spy on your Ex on social media.

 

 

Because it's the emotional equivalent of hitting yourself on the kneecap with a hammer.

 

It will hurt every time."

 

 

You'll get over it, but best not to repeat it.

 

 

Take care.

[smudge21]

Lesson learned there I hope. Sometimes, someone hurts us so bad that we never ever get over them totally. I know I can look or even contact a few ex's and feel nothing - no love or hate, just nothing at all. Odd when at one time they were my world. My current/most recent one I know I wouldn't be able to see her social media stuff in anyway, it would set me back still and that's been 6 months or more. Eventually though, she too will mean nothing to me, but by then, any desire to check up on her will be gone too.

[Protec]

I made lots of mistakes during my breakup but at least i deleted her from social media immeaditely and never spied on her after that. Too painful to see her doing well with all her new guys.