Brando442 Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday, due to her being burnt out tired and exhausted with my anxiety. Plus she doesn't know what she wants anymore. I don't blame her as I know how difficult it can be to be with someone with anxiety etc. but I'm extremely broken she just collected her stuff we both cried she comforted me told me I'll never be alone and she'll help me through it. But Now I'm sitting here alone thinking she should be here having dinner. Showering then sleeping with me. I keep thinking I won't find anyone like her that has her little quirks she had, her sense of humour, her ability to deal with me. If I'll even find anyone who can deal with me, I don't drink or party and I like someone who does the same because of past experiences and she didn't do those things I can't imagine finding someone like that. I know it's been a day but this is my first love I'm 23 on the 22nd and that'll mark 1 year since we met. 1
Heatemyheart89 Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Hello , you will but you want someone better than her . Someone who stays . Plus you are v young still. Take care 1
Bialy Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Things will get better. You should be with someone who wants to be with you. Not walk away. 2
Satu Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 You won't meet anyone like her. You'll meet someone quite different, but you'll love each other. You'll be ok. Take care. 1
sorano Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Think of it this way. If she can't be by your side with any health issues you have, problems, etc? Then why would you still want someone like that. Its not meant to be. I understand its hard to wrap your head around it. I too, struggle at times with the same thing. At times I get a little emotional and miss my ex. Then I have to slap myself and think of the negative things she did and said to me. Its not easy.
juniorrocha Posted September 8, 2016 Posted September 8, 2016 You broke up yesterday, give yourself some time. But while you're at it, work on yourself to get through it. Grieve for a few days, then start picking up the pieces and move on. What you're feeling right now is exactly how I felt, and exactly how everyone here feels when they break up. "How will I ever find somebody as perfect?". But as time passes, as you work on yourself, you'll realize that person wasn't that perfect and doesn't deserve that status. You'll be fine. Give it some time and you'll see how you've changed. 1
DarrenB Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Your ex sounds somewhat alike to mine. If they can't handle you, then that is there problem. You are only human, you have your own flaws like everyone else. But you also have your own personal perks and attributes that make you who you are! Your thread title is: 'How will I ever find someone like her?' Well my friend, go out and explore. I'm certain you will come across many who may be similar or entirely different to your ex, and there's potential in each and everyone. Don't choke yourself down, over someone who ultimately has let you down. Take that, use it as motivation and get back out there (but not so quickly of course). Good luck mate
carnelian Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 Think of her as a gift and now it is time to give her back. SHe was only a gift and that is all. She was not yours to keep. Sadly. No one can tell you whether you will meet someone better or not, but since you are young, you probably will. You will remember her for a long time. Next girl try not to reveal your anxieties and your troubles if you can. She is not your therapist nor should she be one! Act like everything is okay, even if it is not, smile and try not to show your insecurities.. That's my advice from one who knows. It is not a fake thing. 1
basil67 Posted September 11, 2016 Posted September 11, 2016 Reading your previous post, it sounds like you need to take some personal responsibility here. It's not her fault that she couldn't live with your anxiety, depression and trust issues. Keep going with the therapy. Make yourself the kind of partner who's great to be around and make a fresh start with someone else. You can do it.
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