snapperdoodles Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Hello! I've been seeing a guy for a few weeks now (I'm 30, he's 29), and things have been great so far. The frequency of dates has been low due to timing and scheduling issues, but until recently there was constant chatter back and forth between us via text and social media. We've even had a few mini talks where we discussed about how we like each other and want to see where it goes, but we're taking it slow because we've both jumped into things quickly in the past and know how badly it can end when that happens--we like each other, so we don't want to have it go fast just to crash and burn just as fast. We had a talk where we established that we're both not seeing other people just a few days ago, last time we saw each other. Nothing has been made official yet, but he's met some friends of mine. The past few days, though, the chatter has died down, and he's said no to hanging out the last time I asked without offering an alternate day/idea. It's gone from constant conversing throughout the day to a small trickle of texts back and forth. If I don't send anything first during the day, he does. I know he's been busy looking for a new place and told me that work has him a little stressed, but I'm also in a place where I recognize being told that "I'm busy" is typically code for "I'm losing interest." Usually that comes with absolutely no communication, but I'm still seeing likes on facebook, him initiating convos, responses, etc. If he's losing interest, why would he keep talking/interacting? I want to think it's just outside factors distracting him. I guess I'm wondering if I should cut my losses before I get more emotionally involved and would get hurt, or if I should just stick it out to see what happens. Any thoughts?
ThisisIt606 Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Tell him what you want in the relationship as it stands (whether it be something like, I like hearing from you, it would be nice if we could talk more during the week) or find out about his work situation--- is it feasible for him to text? As long as you have upcoming dates or the "it would be fun if we did..." talks I don't think texting has to be as rampant. It's hard to keep up with a lot of texting and can be unrealistic. Also overtime the guy's "true texting habits" may emerge. He may just not be a big texter and tried extra hard in the beginning (even if it was a few weeks).
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