kissed Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 This guy I really like is on tinder. He did not tell me himself but when we were sitting in a group this other guy was like 'Oh Jamie has his hot date tonight'. I then asked him when we were alone if he met this girl on tinder. So I told him I had gone on too but was scared to take it further. He now keeps asking if I've gone on my first t-date, and that it so much fun and I should go. He keeps saying 'just do it'. Apart from these comments encouraging me to date around on tinder (he knows nothing of my sexual history) it seems like he likes me. The walking real close so his arm touches mine, gently punching me on the arm when I tease him, inviting himself where ever I am going. I'm wondering if he is just flirty but doesn't really see anything with me? Surely if you like a girl you wouldn't be like 'oh check out the tinder dates'.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 How old is he? That is a sincere question, by the way. Any man that has had a serious interest in me has never once suggested I date other guys. 1
anthonyflame Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 Seems to me he's just being friendly and sees tinder as a good opportunity for you. He's probably interested seeing as the body language you mentioned he showed but doesn't really seem all that invested in pursuing you. Maybe he's not that interested? Maybe he thinks he's not your type? Idk hard to tell with the information given. These are my thoughts from a guys perspective
leogirl876 Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Sounds like he sees you as a friend or little sister type. Any guy who's interested in you romantically, isn't going to suggest you meet other guys.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 This guy I really like is on tinder. He did not tell me himself but when we were sitting in a group this other guy was like 'Oh Jamie has his hot date tonight'. I then asked him when we were alone if he met this girl on tinder. So I told him I had gone on too but was scared to take it further. He now keeps asking if I've gone on my first t-date, and that it so much fun and I should go. He keeps saying 'just do it'. Apart from these comments encouraging me to date around on tinder (he knows nothing of my sexual history) it seems like he likes me. The walking real close so his arm touches mine, gently punching me on the arm when I tease him, inviting himself where ever I am going. I'm wondering if he is just flirty but doesn't really see anything with me? Surely if you like a girl you wouldn't be like 'oh check out the tinder dates'. There remains the chance that he perceives you to be not very experienced socially/sexually and would take any interest you showed in Tinder to suggest that you are open to party, at which point he might suddenly perk-up with more direct interest in you. In 1955 speak, this would be two people who were each too shy to ever be bold enough to (make themselves vulnerable to the other in the way of announcing romantic feelings for them). On Tinder, the guy may simply be sowing his wild oats (or at least wanting to)... and if he were to learn that you are a like-minded individual, then it could be easier all around to share some vulnerability. But sadly none of that guarantees anything long-term.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 How old is he? That is a sincere question, by the way. Any man that has had a serious interest in me has never once suggested I date other guys. Yup. HE is giving you permission so that he can continue seeing other women. Less guilt if he knows you are dating others as well. Doesn't sound like he is ready to give up the playing around.
bedwarrior2016 Posted September 8, 2016 Posted September 8, 2016 Sounds like he sees you as a friend or little sister type. Any guy who's interested in you romantically, isn't going to suggest you meet other guys. Exactly. I have a feeling you might see this as something a bit more than him. On the other note, if that's the case (so that he's just friendly and has no interest in you) maybe just go on Tinder and find someone who is looking for you. I personally like Tinder, discovered it not long time ago, and as far as it gets boring in the small places (as where I live), it is fantastic in big cities. I have recently been to LA and my Tinder date went actually crazy - I even wrote a story about it - https://www.meetloverepeat.com/stories/summer-trip-to-la-goes-wild-1003 I think I'm also not a very discreet person when it comes to online dating, so I wouldn't mind talking about it with friends and encourage others to do that. Maybe that's who he is?
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