Osmium13 Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 About year ago I met a girl who I was smitten by almost instantly. Sweet, rather quiet, but obviously extremely intelligent. Being very unavailable, I put it to the back of my mind and tried to forget about it. This worked for a while - I saw little of her and neither of us are particularly sociable or chatty types, so the flames died down. Then something changed... over the past few months she seems to be everywhere. I'm sure it's completely coincidental, just that we have a few interests/likes in common - but it's driving me nuts. That initial attraction has been rekindled and sprayed with liquid oxygen. We exchange pleasantries occasionally, but there's been no significant conversation - at least partly because I've avoided it... though the aforementioned lack of conversational skills have also contributed. Maybe it's not such a bad thing being socially awkward after all? Anyway, it's not an environment I can remove myself from. I don't think there's much of a risk of any reciprocal feelings on her part (thank goodness - I really don't know where that would end) so I need to figure out how I can bury this... Ideally without ever letting on how I feel. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Could you bestow some words of wisdom on my slightly messed-up mind to help me deal with it? 1
Bialy Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 I'm a little confused. Did you two actually date or is this someone you just randomly see occasionally? Do you two have mutual friends? 1
Bialy Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 Also - what do you mean by "very inavailable" - is she dating or seeing someone else? 1
Author Osmium13 Posted September 7, 2016 Author Posted September 7, 2016 Sorry, I was deliberately vague on some of the details. Never dated or anything, it's probably more of a tale of unrequited love - though (as far as I'm aware) she doesn't know anything about it to be able to "unrequite"! I spent some time with her when we first met, not much, but enough to "sow a seed", so to speak. Since that day, we've had the occasional conversation in passing, but I've avoided any prolonged contact as I am in a relationship (hence being "very unavailable", though I appreciate I didn't make it clear it was me that was thus). I don't hide things well - I fear it'd be rather obvious that I'd taken a liking to her should I engage in conversation. We do have a couple of mutual friends, though this is a relatively recent development. It's complicating matters slightly. 1
Satu Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 "When you can't have what you want." Whats wrong with what you've got? 1
Author Osmium13 Posted September 7, 2016 Author Posted September 7, 2016 "When you can't have what you want." Whats wrong with what you've got? Have you got a couple of weeks?
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