Philosopher Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 I have two questions relating to how best to move online dating into the real world. The questions are aimed more at the ladies of Loveshack, however guys feel free to answer too. The first question is, if the conversation online is going really well and you really like the other person, after how many exchanges of messages would you like them to suggest meeting up? The second question is how do you prefer to exchange phone numbers with that person: Do you prefer to be asked for your number? Do you prefer that the other person messages you their number first on the dating site and then you text them your details? Or would you rather not exchange numbers at all until you have actually met up?
Gaeta Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 You are spitting hair. I like to take online to off line ASAP. I like to have his number ASAP I have been giving my number on first contact. NO way I will meet someone in real life without first talking to them on the phone = having their number. * Warning: I was a 'don't waste my time' online dater. I liked things done promptly. 2
losangelena Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 I'm also a fan of not waiting too long. For instance, if I really click with a guy online, I like for numbers to be exchanged and a real-world date to be set up fairly quickly. I don't feel a great need to speak on the phone before meeting; I don't really care. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 Knowing that the other person is getting other messages, if you wait too long, you may lose out. So, as others, ASAP.
Author Philosopher Posted September 6, 2016 Author Posted September 6, 2016 You are spitting hair. I like to take online to off line ASAP. I like to have his number ASAP I have been giving my number on first contact. NO way I will meet someone in real life without first talking to them on the phone = having their number. * Warning: I was a 'don't waste my time' online dater. I liked things done promptly. I do too prefer to have a chat over the phone first, however the majority of the time I call a girl up after we have exchanged numbers they do not answer and do not return my call. Therefore to me it seems that speaking on the phone is not that important for most females. It seems that most of those here are keen on getting offline as quickly as possible. To those whom like to move things quickly, how many messages would you give a guy before you stop replying?
leogirl876 Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 I'd say exchange a couple of messages and move it off line ASAP. The guys that just wanted to message over & over lost my interest, but the ones that asked me out right away were the ones that got dates from me. I also prefer the guy to call and I really like it when we actually schedule a time to talk. So if the guy asks what day and time is good for me, I'll say I'm free on Tues at 7:30 pm or something like that and that works out better for me. I also like to get his number too so I can put it in my phone and know who's calling. But seriously, don't be that long messager guy, that gets old quick. You can't get to know someone through app emails, the only way to know if you click is by first talking over the phone and then meeting in person.
Gaeta Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 I do too prefer to have a chat over the phone first, however the majority of the time I call a girl up after we have exchanged numbers they do not answer and do not return my call. Therefore to me it seems that speaking on the phone is not that important for most females. It seems that most of those here are keen on getting offline as quickly as possible. To those whom like to move things quickly, how many messages would you give a guy before you stop replying? If they don't pick up do you leave a message? if they don't get back to you than don't dwell on it. Get back online and on to next. I don't stop replying. When I speak with a man and something is feeling off to me I tell them I don't think we are a match and wish them luck. I usually ask the important questions right away like what they are looking for, how long they have been single, kids age, etc. If some answers aren't what I'm looking for I politely move on. It can take 1 or 2 sometimes 3 messages.
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