ThatGuy1313 Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 (edited) * I want as many opinions as possible * So , to make a long story short , I've been friend's with this girl for a over a decade , so as you can see we've pretty much been lifelong friends . I've know the girl since I was still pissing in the bed .About three years ago--October 2013 to be exact--I began to become romantically interested in her but more physically then romantic though. Anyways, I didn't let the fact the she was currently interested in another guy at the time stop me from telling her how I felt about her. And of course , as you can imagine, she didn't feel the same way for obvious reasons : Her seeing me as just a best friend , and nothing more since we had been friends for such a long time at this point--and for the simple fact that she obviously had feelings for someone else . And of course when she kindly rejected me I backed off and just kept living life even though I was bummed out about the whole thing. But fast forward almost three years later exactly , I still feel the same way about her , but the way she's been acting as of late as been turning me of . --- As a good friend of hers--and I really hate saying that , lol-- I can honestly say the she has a big heart , she's very kind and caring. But with that said , one of the other hand , she is very emotionally needy and selfish.Every time she gets into an argument with her friend , she comes running to me out of nowhere and wants to have super , long discussion and she doesn't really seem to care that she's on my time . Nonetheless , time after time , I hold back what I really want to say to her and proceed to give her the advice and comfort she needs . But now I'm slowly starting get fed up with her , because quite frankly , I don't want to be her friend . I want to either be FWB's or her boyfriend, but I would prefer the former , personally . I am 21 years old and the closet thing I've gotten to sex is spooning and making out . Help , please ! Thanks. Edited September 6, 2016 by ThatGuy1313
GustavoWoltmann Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 Hello I'm Gustavo Woltmann, I feel you bro. So here's the thing. First, you should need to wait for the right timing to tell her your feelings. You will know this because you're been her friend for a long time. However, you should be prepare for worst case scenario which is rejection. You can start by saying that things that you don't like to her. Just simple say, I've noticed that you have changed a bit in these past few days. We'll I hope that helps. Timing is the key to success bro~!
preraph Posted September 7, 2016 Posted September 7, 2016 This is why friendships go to crap once one of the two decides and confesses they have other feelings. She is trusting that you are past that and gone back to being friends, but you have not. You think you are mad at her for this, but just wait and see how mad she is at you once she finds out you're still after her while posing as "just a friend." It's a betrayal and she will not like it. I know because I've been there. It's hard to explain to make you understand, but it just feels creepy knowing some guy is probably thinking about you in an intimate way when you are not and especially when you've known them so well for so long. It just is not right. You are probably going to need to get out of her life and let her move on and you move on easier that way too.
Author ThatGuy1313 Posted September 7, 2016 Author Posted September 7, 2016 (edited) @enigma32 You make an excellent point , which is why I'm really close to giving up on women, period . Help me find the world's smallest violin, lol . No but seriously , engaging with women period, is a serious headache. And I'm starting lose grasp of what the real reward is when trying to get with women or even have a relationship with them .Plus , this isn't the only time something like this has happened before .Pretty much every experience I've had with women thus far have been very awful. And I really have no hope for the future . It has nothing to do with speaking negativity into existence, I'm merely just being honest with myself. Thanks for your comment . Edited September 7, 2016 by ThatGuy1313
spiderowl Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Just become a bit more elusive to her and seem busy and interested in other people. Don't declare your love to her, but wait until she pretty much tells you she wants you herself. If she is at all attracted, then being less available and socially in demand will make her think more about you.
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