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Vero Established Member

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I've just started college and I've already met a lot of really attractive girls. I'm pretty good at meeting new people. Although I am by no means an expert, i can flirt (to what extent I know how to) with them, crack a few jokes, and get to laugh here and there.

 

The interaction usually ends with me getting their contact (usually snapchat). However, I usually never see them anytime soon, due to us having different residence locations.

 

This is where it usually drops off for me. I'll snap them something vague and they won't respond. To be honest, I get pretty discouraged when they don't respond. (I feel compelled to snap them something vague because 1) I'm too nervous to outright ask them to get lunch and whatever OR 2) to make conversation over snapchat.)

 

I've thought of asking them to lunch. For some reason, I'm terrified of asking them to lunch, even if we have a good interaction prior. I know my issue sounds really lame, but this is where I get really anxious and and indecisive. I over analyze everything:

 

does she even want to get lunch? If she does go for lunch, is she just trying to be nice?

 

Help on getting to know some girls?

 

Thanks in advance!

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Lansing Established Member

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If you are feeling pressure from a possible lunch date then make it even more casual. How about a coffee? Or make it even more casual then that. Maybe you are going out to an event on campus and think she might like it. Tell her you are going and see if she wants to join you.

 

I know some people say don't suggest to "hang out" but ask for an actual date. However, if you aren't even getting that far it is worth while trying to be more casual and just have experiences hanging out with women.

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Wow - you are putting way too much thought into getting lunch. Do you not eat lunch every day?

 

If she accepts then yes she wants to get some lunch with you. That is obvious.

 

As for her motives I would suggest the same as yours. She wants to get to know you.

 

You really are making this far too complicated for yourself.

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