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I have been with my current girlfriend for 3 months, and I love her more than anything. I am in college about an hour from home, and she is still home, but we are doing great and not letting the minor distance get in the way. However, we did have a little bit of a tiff over text yesterday.

 

This weekend, I was visiting home and saw her Friday and we had a great time. She went to a festival with her cousin on Saturday and got toasted, so that ruined our plans for Saturday night since she was too sick from the amount she drank to do anything, and almost every word in her texts were misspelled. She was genuinely sorry and felt terrible, so I came to peace with it. I came back to school Sunday, and we texted all day that day like we usually do, but had a terrible Skype conversation that night. She was very out of it and there were a lot of long silences too since she was distracted at the time.

 

Yesterday, I didn't hear from her all morning, and I texted her about 1pm asking how her day was, and she responded and we talked like normal. I then texted her later on asking her how the bbq was that she went to that night, and she simply responded, "Good" and in short answers when I asked her other questions, like what was for dinner, etc. I then asked her if she wanted to come down one day during the week, to which she replied, "I'll see how the week goes." I then asked if anything was wrong and she responded "No." I just responded with "k" to show I was a little put off. After a few minutes of silence, she started up another conversation, but I had to confess how what she said bothered me.

 

She visited one night last week, and we went for dinner and ice cream and had a great night before she dropped me back off on campus, and she had been texting me and saying how she missed me last week and she couldn't wait to see me again. She explained that she wanted to come, but she wasn't sure if she could since she is working 10 hour shifts on the days that I finish at noon. I then apologized and said I understood that, but it bothered me that she didn't mention that in the first place. I don't like when she, or anyone else, gives me a "maybe" or "I'll see" when I ask them to hang out without explaining why it's tentative.

 

What she said made me feel like she didn't want to see me and didn't miss me. I told her that since she didn't mention work at first, I didn't know that was the reason, and we haven't talked yet today. I wish she would have said, "I'll see, but I have 10 hrs shifts on your early days, so it might be tough this week." I still think she's a little miffed. Do you think it's unreasonable of me to be hurt when she says "maybe" or "I'll see" or "I don't know" when I ask her to do something? I'm afraid to say that because it'll make me seem insecure or that she owes me an explanation for things.

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She doesn't owe you and explanation but this one has run its course.

 

You are young. Go get yourself single so you can date others instead of all this drama.

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I should also add that her best friend unfriended me on Facebook for a reason I don't know. I really don't care about that, and I'm just adding it in case it is relevant to the situation, but I don't think it is.

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She doesn't owe you and explanation but this one has run its course.

 

You are young. Go get yourself single so you can date others instead of all this drama.

 

So it's run its course because of one argument? If she wants to stay mad at me, she can, but all I know is our relationship had been fantastic until this weekend. I'm not going to text or call her all day today to see if she initiates anything. After I said, "I'm sorry, but since you didn't mention work, I didn't know that was the reason for your tentativeness," she didn't respond at all.

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Just got a Snapchat from her a little while ago, and we are going to Skype later, so this is behind me. I realize I was kind of an idiot, because "I'll see how the week goes" really isn't a bad thing.

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