psymann Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 Hi everyone I know there are quite a few stories like this. This girl was visiting my city on a trip and we briefly met during that time before she left to go back. We texted throughout the next few weeks and then I was scheduled to visit her city for a meeting. I knew I only had 5 days there but figured I'd ask her for drinks. She quickly obliged. I went with no expectations but we ended up having casual drinks and laying on hammocks together for hours just star gazing towards the end of the night. Affection came easily - and felt much more natural than it normally does for me, and she said the same. We spent the next evening together and all of the following day together also. I delayed my return flight which is not something I'd normally do either. She seems really genuine and it was obvious that she did not want me to leave. She's a shy girl, not much of an attention seeker and I think we had a great bond. Most of her interests that some of her friends find weird/funny are interests that I also have so she seemed like a mirror image of myself throughoutt he past month of getting to know her through texting and through our meeting up. I know this might sound like vacation fling, and maybe thats all itll end up being, but I used to live in her city so I don't feel like I'm blinded by the fact that I was on vacation there. But I don't know how to proceed. She kept asking for "one last kiss" before I left, but I told her it wouldn't be the last one. She lingered around hugging and kissing me which almost made me late to leave. Normally I would just forget about this but I'm finding it really difficult to. I've thought about how it might work if I flew there every now and again, it's not terribly expensive and not too far. I should also mention she loves my city and wants to move here, but that doesn't seem to be in her immediate plans unless she transfers schools. I'm 27 she's 24. Am I just being crazy? Thank you.
bedwarrior2016 Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 Why would that be crazy? It is pretty normal. I mean, it is called attraction. If two people feel attracted to each other, what else matters?
Author psymann Posted September 6, 2016 Author Posted September 6, 2016 I guess so. I'm trying to figure out how to tell her I'm interested in possibly keeping this going without "coming on too strong" or pressuring her. She seems like such a nice girl, I don't want to unintentionally hurt her or make things difficult. At the same time it'd be nice to know if she just saw it as a weekend thing and the distance was a deal breaker.
Author psymann Posted September 6, 2016 Author Posted September 6, 2016 anyone have any tips on how to proceed? we are still in contact. Her best friend is kind of in this same situation and she was telling me about it, how her best friend gets in fights with the guy and how the girl I'm kind of liking thinks its stupid because they live in different states. I'm not sure if that speaks to her mindset or not but. Like I said on the other hand she really did not want me to leave and did all the lingering she could to delay it, didn't seem to be weirded out when I said it wouldn't be our last kiss.
introverted1 Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 Just ask her! Invite her to your city or tell her when you can come to hers and see if she would like to see you. I don't think you need a big "where is this going" conversation just yet. From what you write, it seems pretty clear you like her and she likes you - go with it!
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