She doesn't love me - scorpio female virgo male

[nd3093]

Early in January, I started talking to a girl through mutual friends on instagram. We talked for a few weeks at the start and then I found out she lived in another state which wasn't a problem for me. I then found out she had a boyfriend of 3 years which kind of upset me because I really liked her even though I didn't meet her yet. I continued talking to her and that eventually followed up to phone calls and they were completely normal and natural. We talked everyday and texted a lot. I supported her and wanted to be there for her. She eventually told me about her relationship status and I was supportive and tried being there for her. She was going through a breakup and I stayed by her side. She ended up breaking up with her boyfriend because of me. Later on at one point, we got into a big argument and she was very selfless with me and told me that if I ever found another girl that I can pursue her even though we were just talking. I treated her like a girlfriend and I really liked her a lot. I would always text her and always talked with her on the phone.

 

I finally got the chance to meet her in person in July when she came and visited with her friends. She stayed for 4 days and I was able to spend 2 of those days with her alone. We had an amazing time and vibed really well. From there, we traveled to another state and had it planned to go there for a vacation before she came and visited.

 

We had an amazing time when we first met and during this vacation it just was the best time of my life. I was the happiest I've ever been. I was able to hold her hands, kiss her, touch her, share a bed with her, and she was very comfortable with me. I was also able to get intimate with her. I fell in love with this girl.

 

Recently, I did something that I regret ever doing. I broke the trust barrier between her over a silly mistake but she has forgiven me for it even after breaking her heart. It was all over a misconception and I think it's biting me in the ass.

 

She wanted me to come visit for 3 days because it was a perfect timing with her family and she told me that I wouldn't be able to see her again for a while. It was also my birthday and she wanted to see me. I visited her for 3 days in which she spent the whole time with me. She stayed with me in the hotel and we slept in the same bed. She even got me a birthday gift.

 

In person, I just didn't know how to apologize or say sorry for what I had done. After the first day, she made it clear that I was just her friend. She told me that she didn't know if she had any feelings for me or if she loved me. She told me that she tried forcing herself to love me. She even told me I took her virginity. She made it clear that I would never be with her and that she could never be initiate with me like that and that she wants to love unconditionally and she doesn't feel that way with me. I was very emotional and upset and I just didn't want to do anything. I was comfortable expressing myself to her and showed her that I really cared for her. I even cried in front of her because I really cared so much about her and I really loved her. I showed her that I was also sad and upset.

 

Maybe this is too soon because she just got out of a relationship? I'm not sure what to do.. She still talks to me and she loves me as a person. She wants to be my best friend and I'm accepting that because I love her. I don't want to force her to love me. I see myself with this girl and she's everything I want in a girl. I told her that she was the girl of my dreams and my soulmate, the girl I want to marry. She's so down to earth and genuine and has a kind heart. I don't want to give up trying and she wishes that she can be with me but it's just not in her heart and she says it's not meant to be.

 

I'm not sure what to do. Continue talking to her and hope that one day she changes her mind or completely stop? When she told me all those things she really meant it and told me so I can prepare for it, so I wouldn't get hurt.

 

Any help would be much appreciated

[joseb]

Whats with all this talk of love? You hardly know each other.

 

She's not interested anyway, so you need to forget her and move on.

[snowangel97]

Relationships are challenging, especially long distance ones. No amount of digital communication will ever make up for face to face contact. That being said, it sounds like you all are in different places right now in regards to what each of you want in the relationship. Other than the last conversation, had you all ever really had a heart to heart about what each wants in a relationship? Do you feel like speaking to a counselor would be beneficial? Just a thought! Sometimes talking to someone, who is trained and impartial, can make a huge difference in the situation!