Rider4Life Posted July 5, 2005 Posted July 5, 2005 Sorry if this is long...try to stay with me I dated a guy for a few months almost 2years ago...I ended up dumping him for another guy (I know, stupid thing to do, I unfortunately realized that a little too late to change things ) Anyway, I was in the next relationship for a year n 1/2, we finally ended things a month or so ago. Throughout the whole yr n 1/2, the 1st guy i dated was always my best friend. He was absolutely always there for me through thick and thin, and I've NEVER had anything bad to say about him. I can't even begin to describe how much respect I have for him, how much he means to me, and what I'd do for him if it meant seeing him happy. He dated another girl for about the last 5months of my relationship, and we ended up both being single @ approx. the same time. We have been spending a lot of time together as friends recently...and I've fallen completely back in love w/ him (long story short, i've really always loved him...but no on else has never known that..and I would willingly admit, to anyone but him, that he has always been more important to me than any other guy). So...we've been hanging out, and there are more signs pointing to him having feelings for me than not, but I'm not sure where to take things from here. He treats me incredibley well, but he will say things such as "too bad, u had your chance last year" (only said that once, he seemed to be joking...). I've said a lot of things to hint @ my feelings for him, and I want to really tell him how much he means to me and that I'd give anything for a 2nd chance to be with him again...but I'm really scared of being rejected. I know it's too soon to get into another relationship, but I want to know how he feels. I'm hoping actions speak louder than words in this instance, b/c he certainly acts like he has feelings for me. So, any advice? Thanks in advance!
lvgrl Posted July 5, 2005 Posted July 5, 2005 Grow balls and do it. Thats my advice, just tell him. Dont beat around the bush, catch him off guard and just tell him. That is the only THE ONLY way he will know forsure what you are feeling. And who knows, he could be feeling the same thing you are, not knowing how or what to say. So you making the move could lead him to tell you that he was thinking the same thing.. And if hes not, then at least he knows...Its all you can do.
Author Rider4Life Posted July 5, 2005 Author Posted July 5, 2005 I have been told that by a few close friends. I know that's what I should do..but it's easier said than done. I know him well, and I know that if he felt strong enough the same way, he's not blind, im sure he knows how I feel...I think he would say something. But he leaves in a few weeks for a month and 1/2...I am determined to tell him by then..he's going to Costa Rica for the rest of the summer and I want to make sure he knows how I feel before he goes....thank you! I guess I just need encouragement!
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