slickrick1 Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 Got out of a year+ long relationship (ended amicably) a few months ago, and I've been trying to get back into the dating scene (major metropolitan area). After a few flings/dates with others through friends of friends, I ended up meeting with someone from a similar background and job online, and we seemed to hit it off on our first date last week. We both work crazy hours (finance) and so we met for drinks late at 10:30ish on a Wednesday night, with the date going until 2:30am. It seemed like we had a lot in common, such as humor and funny nicknames that we grew up with, and things we'd like to try. Anyways, after a couple drinks, we walked outside for a bit, holding hands/arms around each others' waists and stopping a few times to kiss. On the way back she was humming to herself (seems like she was elated?). At the end we agreed that we both had fun and that we should do it again. We exchanged a few texts the next two days, but the conversation seemed to die out, and then the long weekend started and she was out of town on a last minute girls trip. Am I overthinking/overeager about this? Signs were all positive, right? I want to tell myself that I need to stay grounded, but I it's been sometime since I've felt this way so I wanted some cold true honesty from the internet so I can re-calibrate before asking her out again.
gorf Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 (edited) I mean, sounds like a good time. Casual setting. You know better than us how she seemed to feel about it, and mentioned you both agreed you had a good time. I would say she might be just waiting to hear if you reply back with a 'had a good time with you, would like to get to know you better, maybe we can meet up again sometime soon' sorta message or call. Why not go for it? And if you do, this was last week, so I would not wait a day longer. Edited September 6, 2016 by gorf
smackie9 Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 You are just asking her for a date, not marry her.....contact her.
Author slickrick1 Posted September 9, 2016 Author Posted September 9, 2016 Well, as an update I did ask her out again on Tuesday, and I heard back from her this afternoon. She seemed apologetic, saying sorry for the extremely late response. She noted that things have been hectic on her end with work and life and she included a sad emoji. She mentioned on our date that things were going to get busy at work and that all nighters are a routine thing when deals/projects close (she's an investment banker). HOWEVER, there was no note of a counter offer/other time suggestion. I have a couple other dates lined up this week, so I'm not quite dwelling on this anymore, but it did seem like we clicked, which is the unfortunate part. Shall I just tell her to get back to me when things aren't as crazy? If she does, great, if not, then I've already moved on since I do not expect her to? BTW - She has not been on the online app since our date last week.
takenawayfrom Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 Yeah, I mean it depends how much you want to force it. Personally I would probably just say 'let me know when things die down at work but honestly if she hasn't suggested an alternative date then I wouldn't expect her to get back to you. The other option is to keep on texting her every day or so and then she'll know you really like her/are serious about a relationship/willing to wait/get to know her and this might play in your favour if she does actually like you. If she doesn't like you then she might not like the attention and will slow down her responses. If you think you're good at text flirting then do this haha. So yeah, up to you! I wouldn't dwell on it too much though,
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