tim_90 Posted September 5, 2016 Posted September 5, 2016 Hi Guys Just a bit of advice. I'm currently on a break from a relationship, with a no contact rule. I'm dying to text her and find out how she is, it's like 4 days in to a one week break. I just have this feeling that the absence won't make the heart grow fonder. She liked a post on facebook stating: 'trust that an ending is followed by a beginning.' I guess I'm just worried she just wants to move on and I feel that this no contact is actually making things worse. Question is can I communicate with her guys? Or is this advised against? Just pretty stuck to be honest with you! Thanks for reading this.
marky00 Posted September 5, 2016 Posted September 5, 2016 well you probably shouldn't have looked at that social media. And I would agree that message may be significant. If your getting that vibe, your probably right. She may have asked for a break to let you down easier. Your right in your thinking here that her decision may be more set in stone as time passes or at least she will be more immune to pleading and bargaining as time marches on. But you also need to know that contacting her and pleading with her will make you look clingy and desperate which will work against you. Your between a rock and hard place right now !!!!
lostsoul6486 Posted September 5, 2016 Posted September 5, 2016 Don't do it. I'm not a proponent of breaks. As a matter of fact, I think they're worse than break ups. Having said that, you both agreed to a one week break so now stick to it. If you reach out now, you'll seem needy. Just let the week pass and reach out to her then. Prepare for the worst. I'm sorry to say, but these usually don't end very well. Good luck.
marky00 Posted September 5, 2016 Posted September 5, 2016 It may be best to follow through with the 7 days and when you do contact, talk as calmly as possible. Anger or tears are big No Nos. Expect the worst. If you get the worst, don't breakdown on the call. Don't react. Just something like "ok I have heard your words, goodbye for now". At least this way, you don't burn all your bridges and u save dignity.
Zahara Posted September 5, 2016 Posted September 5, 2016 If she "forgets" then what does that tell you? Don't try and remind someone of your existence. If you have to do that, you have your answer. Stay NC. 1
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