joseb Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 She seemed very nervous to start of with but by the end of the night she seemed fine. Well after the movie she mentioned she felt tired after a long day at work so in my head I thought it was time to go home. I asked her how she was getting home and she said her sister was picking her up so I walked with her to the pick up destination. I then asked are you sure you don't want to me to stay she said no that's fine you live so far away. So I gave her a hug and as I walked away I noticed she opened up her phone and walked back inside. That's when I found out it changed from her sister picking her up to her mum and she had to wait 2 hours. But let's just say this isn't the first time before we met I got a message around 1AM oh her stranded after a night out with no way to get home. She would say things like "Eh I wish I had a boyfriend to pick me up" I've told her I don't have a car atm so why she thinks i'm capable of picking her up and dropping her home is beyond me. So she was hitting you up for rides before you even met? I'm not sure I even believe her story about her waiting now. I mean why would her sister and mum leave her hanging for two hours? And why couldn't she get a taxi or uber if that stuck.
Author 4x4storm Posted September 6, 2016 Author Posted September 6, 2016 So she was hitting you up for rides before you even met? I'm not sure I even believe her story about her waiting now. I mean why would her sister and mum leave her hanging for two hours? And why couldn't she get a taxi or uber if that stuck. She wouldn't directly ask me but would always hint at it. Her story checked out though throughout the whole 2 hours she was sending me snapchats. She never wanted to take a taxi or bus always relied on other people to pick her up. She was one of the popular girls at school and still has this whole live for the moment attitude so she would continually skip work to party then complain to me that she had no money.
preraph Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 You're trying to apply a "one size fits all" solution to individuals who are entitled to their preferences, just like you are entitled to your preferences and don't owe anything to a girl you're not attracted to just because she has interest in you. It didn't work for this chick because of whatever reasons she had--she may not have been free to pursue you: as in, she may be in rebound mode and is still hung up on her ex or some other guy she really wanted to go out with. Dating means dealing with rejection; we all have to deal with the fall out from casting our pearls before swine. There will be those who cannot appreciate what you bring--and they must be weeded out. Keep on bringing out the best in you so that you can keep weeding out those who aren't worthy of your best. Your best means that you love yourself enough to not be triflin' and small minded. ^ That. Be your best self for your own good in life in general, but it's not a paying occupation. No one owes you for being your best self. Like everyone has said, we ALL get rejected over and over again. It isn't always even about you. We all like what we like and once we know someone isn't it, we bail. Doesn't mean the right one won't love you someday. And if you're feeling sorry for yourself all the effort you made, think about how much more effort women make every single day to look good and stylish and keep their hair pretty and nails done and some even wear punishing heels that will leave them crippled someday -- and guess what? They get rejected just like you do. 1
neowulf Posted September 6, 2016 Posted September 6, 2016 I guess what's really getting to me is a lot of these girls i'm chasing I feel aren't out of my league. So when I get rejected I sit here and think ok how can I improve myself what are my weak points? I work on them and the same thing happens all over again. It's at the point where I don't have anything to give anymore. Consider this analogy I've used to describe dating; Imagine a pad lock, now imagine a key that doesn't fit that lock. Is the lock faulty? Because it won't accept the wrong key? Should the key go and polish itself up? Get diamond encrusted or something? Would that make it work with the lock? No. There are locks for keys and keys for locks. She's not the right one for you. Don't take it personally. Find your lock.
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