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Hi all

 

I have been having a rough time lately, keeping no contact but having persistent negative thoughts of ex . However , I had a shock when my phone went off and it was him ! He rang me , I ignored it. Foolishly I rang him back a week later , today . Turns out he is over me and honestly all my heartache was pointless . I feel like something has changed in me .This is it now . He is stranger to me and I have been living in a fantasy land , looking him up on Facebook and obsessing over him . He actually pities me and was checking up on me . I don't want that , he is now blocked . My ex admitted he let me down in the relationship and he didn't help me like a boyfriend should .

 

I usually reach a point where things are done in my head .Hope this is it . I am feeling quite deflated and I will be wary in the future with who I go for as unfortunately being the Florence nightingale and saving someone at the expense of yourself isn't worth it . He seems to be really enjoying life , what a kicker . Such time I have wasted .Oh well onwards and upwards.

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He wasn't for you. He knows it too, and you should take that as a good thing because you not only got rid of someone who isn't worth what you're willing to give, but also that makes you realize you were a good person and that's what matters after all. It's good that he said he's over too, because now you can use that in your favor to move on as well.

 

You'll get through it, just sht that happens in life to all of us.

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He wasn't for you. He knows it too, and you should take that as a good thing because you not only got rid of someone who isn't worth what you're willing to give, but also that makes you realize you were a good person and that's what matters after all. It's good that he said he's over too, because now you can use that in your favor to move on as well.

 

You'll get through it, just sht that happens in life to all of us.

 

Thanks for your reply :).

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In a similar situation myself. NC with my ex since we broke up but have still been checking his social media, some days more than others, but I know I must stop this now. I am feeling better in myself it has been a few weeks but you are right, they are now strangers to us, they chose to be, we are not significant enough for them to want us in their lives anymore. Harsh but the reality. We just need to think of things logically - we lived before them and we will live without them again. I am finding myself again slowly but surely and for the first time I am growing to love myself first. In a few weeks/months/years maybe I'll be able to say this was a blessing in disguise.

 

Hope you are doing ok Heatemyheart89. We must not be a slave to our emotions in the long term. Take care of your soul. Hugs x

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In a similar situation myself. NC with my ex since we broke up but have still been checking his social media, some days more than others, but I know I must stop this now. I am feeling better in myself it has been a few weeks but you are right, they are now strangers to us, they chose to be, we are not significant enough for them to want us in their lives anymore. Harsh but the reality. We just need to think of things logically - we lived before them and we will live without them again. I am finding myself again slowly but surely and for the first time I am growing to love myself first. In a few weeks/months/years maybe I'll be able to say this was a blessing in disguise.

 

Hope you are doing ok Heatemyheart89. We must not be a slave to our emotions in the long term. Take care of your soul. Hugs x

 

 

Hi Em

Thanks for your reply . I have been on and off stalking the ex on Facebook , but I've deactivated my Facebook /Instagram now . This has helped me a lot . I also found it helpful to imagine that we (me &ex ) are on different paths . I used to be obsessed with who he would meet etc. Now I am not as bothered , we aren't in each other's lives . When I realised he had no responsibility for me and I had none for him this helped .

 

Breaking no contact constantly did set me back , but breaking it this time was the final straw and I'm glad he told me he is over me .

 

Good luck and continue on moving in the right direction :) x

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