Cdog1010010 Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 (edited) We dated almost a year, had ups and downs and she didn't really know what she wanted. Her answer to a lot of serious questions was I don't know and I'm not sure. During that part of our relationship we had sex quite a bit at the beginning, and it eventually slowed down. We eventually got to a point where we got more distant and broke up. I was heartbroken at that point and pretty much treated her like she was still special to me, cus she was, about 2 months afterwards, until I found out she was spending time with another guy. So I left her alone for 2 months past that. Then we get back together after she comes callin telling me she doesn't feel good with eher life and nothings getting better. I told her she needed to turn her I don't knows into I do know, and one of the questions she changed the answer to in such a way was do you want me. So we're back together, been so for 3 months, and it's irritating me. She told me upon us getting together and promising to be honest, that she was actively having sex while we were broke up and that she had no problem doing so. But we've been back together 3 months, me the person she says she chose she wants, and no matter what I try without being disrespectful forceful or physical with the risk of hurting her (she's decently fragile and I'm pretty strong and sometimes it's hard to control my strength). I've told her I wanted to have sex once or teice , literally asked her if she wants to, touched her softly and kissed her to get her in the mood, slap her butt all the time, tel her she's beautiful all the time (say it without sexual intent but because it's true) and we have fun together, but to no avail. It hurts knowing this girl I've been through so much with and have feelings for and vice versa doesn't want to share in intimate moments with me as much, but was able to and even more so with no problem, have sex with other dude (s) when we were broken up Edited September 5, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
BaileyB Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 Move on. She is not a healthy partner and it's not going to happen. Sorry. 4
SoleMate Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 She's really the only one who knows why she doesn't want to have sex with you. Have you asked her? If you can't have that conversation, then you probably should break up. ...no matter what I try without being disrespectful forceful or physical with the risk of hurting her (she's decently fragile and I'm pretty strong and sometimes it's hard to control my strength)... Hmmm, well make sure you do control yourself even if it's hard. 2
Tahirthegreat Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 Usually when a partner doesnt want to have sex with you, its because she is having sex with someone else. Move on and save yourself from further heartbreak. Better yet, YOU be the one to have sex with someone else.
Romantic Gentleman Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 She's still unsure what she wants. She said she openly had sex when you two weren't together, so there is a strong possibility that she's still doing it. 1
Satu Posted September 5, 2016 Posted September 5, 2016 She's not feeling it. Let her go. Take care. 1
smackie9 Posted September 5, 2016 Posted September 5, 2016 Have that talk with her....then proceed to breakup, because I have a feeling she is no longer feeling it. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 5, 2016 Posted September 5, 2016 We dated almost a year, had ups and downs and she didn't really know what she wanted. Her answer to a lot of serious questions was I don't know and I'm not sure. During that part of our relationship we had sex quite a bit at the beginning, and it eventually slowed down. We eventually got to a point where we got more distant and broke up. I was heartbroken at that point and pretty much treated her like she was still special to me, cus she was, about 2 months afterwards, until I found out she was spending time with another guy. So I left her alone for 2 months past that. Then we get back together after she comes callin telling me she doesn't feel good with eher life and nothings getting better. I told her she needed to turn her I don't knows into I do know, and one of the questions she changed the answer to in such a way was do you want me. So we're back together, been so for 3 months, and it's irritating me. She told me upon us getting together and promising to be honest, that she was actively having sex while we were broke up and that she had no problem doing so. But we've been back together 3 months, me the person she says she chose she wants, and no matter what I try without being disrespectful forceful or physical with the risk of hurting her (she's decently fragile and I'm pretty strong and sometimes it's hard to control my strength). I've told her I wanted to have sex once or teice , literally asked her if she wants to, touched her softly and kissed her to get her in the mood, slap her butt all the time, tel her she's beautiful all the time (say it without sexual intent but because it's true) and we have fun together, but to no avail. It hurts knowing this girl I've been through so much with and have feelings for and vice versa doesn't want to share in intimate moments with me as much, but was able to and even more so with no problem, have sex with other dude (s) when we were broken up Ugh. Do you have any respect for youself? Did she dumped you, had sex with others, and then, when things are still not going her way, she reluctantly comes back to you. Believe me, her decision to return does not sound like it's b/c she believes you are the man of her dreams. YOU should move on. On another note, did you ask her??? Did you think for a moment that she may have had a traumatic experience with this other guy? Ask HER, not this forum, why she won't have sex with you. 1
leogirl876 Posted September 5, 2016 Posted September 5, 2016 Usually when a partner doesnt want to have sex with you, its because she is having sex with someone else. Move on and save yourself from further heartbreak. Better yet, YOU be the one to have sex with someone else. Not always. It could be she's not getting her emotional needs met. Maybe her boyfriend is pushing her for sex too much and it's turning her off. Been there, done that, and I wasn't having sex with anyone else. The boyfriend at the time thought all he had to do was come over my house, hang out and we'd have sex eventually. Um, no! There's more to a relationship than hanging out watching tv. 3
Stercrazy Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 Sex is a form of communication. I think she's not into like the first time you guys dated and body is shutting down towards you. People who are dating are at least excited to see each other which should lead to some intimacy.....not just talking about sex here. However....if she's not getting at least somewhat intimate I would think that's a red flag....for whatever reason.
Redhead14 Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 We dated almost a year, had ups and downs and she didn't really know what she wanted. Her answer to a lot of serious questions was I don't know and I'm not sure. During that part of our relationship we had sex quite a bit at the beginning, and it eventually slowed down. We eventually got to a point where we got more distant and broke up. I was heartbroken at that point and pretty much treated her like she was still special to me, cus she was, about 2 months afterwards, until I found out she was spending time with another guy. So I left her alone for 2 months past that. Then we get back together after she comes callin telling me she doesn't feel good with eher life and nothings getting better. I told her she needed to turn her I don't knows into I do know, and one of the questions she changed the answer to in such a way was do you want me. So we're back together, been so for 3 months, and it's irritating me. She told me upon us getting together and promising to be honest, that she was actively having sex while we were broke up and that she had no problem doing so. But we've been back together 3 months, me the person she says she chose she wants, and no matter what I try without being disrespectful forceful or physical with the risk of hurting her (she's decently fragile and I'm pretty strong and sometimes it's hard to control my strength). I've told her I wanted to have sex once or teice , literally asked her if she wants to, touched her softly and kissed her to get her in the mood, slap her butt all the time, tel her she's beautiful all the time (say it without sexual intent but because it's true) and we have fun together, but to no avail. It hurts knowing this girl I've been through so much with and have feelings for and vice versa doesn't want to share in intimate moments with me as much, but was able to and even more so with no problem, have sex with other dude (s) when we were broken up but was able to and even more so with no problem, have sex with other dude (s) when we were broken up -- Well, first of all, you don't know whether she did it with no problem, but the reality is, likely, that the other dudes didn't want to be doormats . . . |
joseb Posted September 10, 2016 Posted September 10, 2016 She has no respect for you. She is treating you like a door mat. She goes off and has loads of sex and pretty much braggs about it while telling you no, no sex for you. Why would you put up with this treatement? She is either using you as a bit of an emotional tampon while she regroups, or somewhere to recover while shagging other guys.
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