LookAtThisPOst Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 I put a question mark at the end, because I'm puzzled here. A couple of female friends of mine had told me that they had started seeing someone or been on a couple of dates. One of them said the guy she was out with was publicly obnoxious. Vocal even. She said something about being on an elevator with him, was loud in the elevator with other people on it, saying rude things (not the the people, but just in general). As if he was vying for the public's attention. Just think an Internet troll in real life. She told him how embarrassing he is, and he calls her an a**hole for thinking that. Later on in our conversation, she complains about never calling her for another date. And I said, "After ALL that, you are upset that he didn't call you for a future date? I'd say you dodged a bullet." Another one was something about the same behavior, but more having to do with nothing in common with the guy whatsoever....but then complains about how he didn't call if when he said he would. And I'm like, "Why do you even care, if you don't like him?!" I'm not sure how often this happens, but I find it quite baffling and was wondering if you came across people like this both men and women? Not sure if women are more guilty of it than men are though, unless it's the same, but a different twist on it?
Kamille Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 The biggest difference between men and women on this is that men are expected to make the moves while women tend to hold back on calling. So, it's more likely that women will wonder why a guy didn't call, where men are more likely to call and wonder why the woman is giving them the run around.
Sthrngem87 Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 I see men do this all of the time. With women who are mentally unstable, selfish, uninterested, rude, etc. Have you not read these forums before? Lol. My best friend's old roommate bought a house for a woman who's an alcoholic with no job, can't be taken out in public at all because she's embarrassing, and all of his friends and family despise her. Not everyone can see the glaring mistakes their making.
xxoo Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 Sizzling chemistry, but low compatibility. It never works out, but it is great subject matter for film and music because so many people can relate.
smudge21 Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 Bad girl/Bad boy syndrome I reckon, where we go after that person who is clearly a bad penny but their bad sides are what draws us to them. I have friends who always date the bad boy type. Seems to be a pattern - the guy will be a major player, a cheater, maybe even a bit violent. You can tell where the relationship is going, and it does, with bad results. Then comes a few months of sadness, alone time, posting on social media about horrible men and then it's back to the next bad boy. Should a nice guy come along, they don't get a look in and become "friends". I've sadly been just as guilty in the past with the occasional bad girl - the total polar opposite crazy party chick who loves attention, then I stupidly fall for them and end up hurt when their personality slaps me in the face. I can recognise the patterns and signs, but sometimes those bad girls just get my attention and interest more than the quiet good girls, if you get me. Sadly you can't force people to change and deep down, we all make mistakes. It's by making those mistakes that we learn. For some though, they don't and remain chasing the wrong person.
elaine567 Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 There is a huge difference between rejecting someone and being rejected. Here, by dissing her date, SHE is doing the rejecting. She is making it clear that he is not good enough for her. To then find that HE rejected her by not calling is a big hit to her ego. SHE wanted to be the one doing the rejecting, he was supposed to be besotted with her and she was then going to be "too busy" to reply. He is an a......., so why would he think she would go out with him again???? Only he never bothered asking her for a second date, so what does that say about her. Ouch! Same happens when the "fat" girl rejects a guy, his ego is hurt as he was supposed to be the one rejecting her, because she is too fat. She is supposed to be all hurt and upset, only she isn't. Ouch!
phineas Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 Don't want to be alone? i've got a few female friends who do nothing but complain about their men and when I say "you're BF" in reference to something they act like he isn't really a BF at all. They say there is no connection and the sex is bad, blah,blah,blah. Only good thing they have to say is "he has a good job":rolleyes: But, when he's around they are acting like BF/GF. I just ignore them when they complain and change the subject and feel sorry for the dudes when it implodes because clearly those guys are more invested than the women. Me personally, the only time I complain about a woman to friends is when I explain why I ended things.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 There is a huge difference between rejecting someone and being rejected. Here, by dissing her date, SHE is doing the rejecting. She is making it clear that he is not good enough for her. To then find that HE rejected her by not calling is a big hit to her ego. SHE wanted to be the one doing the rejecting, he was supposed to be besotted with her and she was then going to be "too busy" to reply. He is an a......., so why would he think she would go out with him again???? Only he never bothered asking her for a second date, so what does that say about her. Ouch! Same happens when the "fat" girl rejects a guy, his ego is hurt as he was supposed to be the one rejecting her, because she is too fat. She is supposed to be all hurt and upset, only she isn't. Ouch! Good point. Don't want to be alone? i've got a few female friends who do nothing but complain about their men and when I say "you're BF" in reference to something they act like he isn't really a BF at all. They say there is no connection and the sex is bad, blah,blah,blah. Only good thing they have to say is "he has a good job":rolleyes: But, when he's around they are acting like BF/GF. I just ignore them when they complain and change the subject and feel sorry for the dudes when it implodes because clearly those guys are more invested than the women. Me personally, the only time I complain about a woman to friends is when I explain why I ended things. Yes, I believe this is another good reason. Some people do not do well w/o "being with someone." Unfortunately, that includes with those whom they are not happy with.
preraph Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 Realistically, nearly everyone complains about who they're with some. Why? Because no one is perfect so no union is perfect. They complain so they don't blow their stack AT the person.
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