I saw my ex.

[juniorrocha]

After about 2 months and a half, today I went to a party and my ex was there. At first I saw a friend of hers, we talked for a little bit. She mentioned she was there. I was afraid of seeing her there, but I didn't keep myself from enjoying the party.

 

Then I got lost and was trying to find my friend and another of her friends saw me. She also talked to me, then another friend of hers showed up and when I least expected, there she was. She wouldn't stop looking at me. I went to her and said hi, and asked "how are you?". She said she was fine and asked about me. I replied the same thing.

 

The most curious thing is: I didn't recognize her. I looked at her, she's exactly the same, same hair, same clothes, same smile, same every little ****ing thing. Yet I didn't recognize her. It took me a few seconds before realizing that there she was, my ex. The girl I loved for almost 2 years. The girl I gave my all. The girl I learned how to cook better food, how to make good massages, just to make her feel special. The girl that I use to go to parties like this and go back home with, where we would cuddle til we fell asleep and would spend the next day just chilling with each other.

 

I said bye to her friends so I could find mine. I said bye to her too. And I noticed she was crying. I didn't expect that at all. I really thought she had completely moved on, after all she was the one who dumped me. She was the one to came back saying she missed me and a lot of things, and when I said I loved her she just turned her back again.

 

I'm not sure what I'm feeling right now. A side of me is like: "wow, you made it. You're over her. You simply don't care". I really don't. I saw her with another guy and although I can't say I felt 100% indifference, it was very close to that. I surely don't care anymore. And seeing her made it very clear.

 

On another note, my heart is like: "you use to love that girl with all your heart just a while back and now you don't care, that's kinda strange". I can't believe someone who I use to know EVERYTHING about now became absolutely nothing. Zero, nada.

 

I just got home and I needed to vent. Not only to vent, but also this post is meant to give some of you some light: 3 months ago I couldn't see a future without my ex, I wanted her back no matter what, no one was as great as her, I needed her. And now I feel like, in so little time, that I'm getting there. This unknown place called "over your ex", which is a little frightening but also seems to be very peaceful.

 

Keep going with your NC, working out, everything. All of her friends noticed I'm looking better and they mentioned it. It sure made my ex see it too.

 

This is the best saying when it comes down to exes and I'll keep repeating it everywhere: your best revenge is to be successful. It not only makes you move on, it also makes your ex see what he/she has lost.

[Bialy]

Wow. Sounds like you're on a good path. The fact that you were unaffected by her presence speaks volumes. You didn't feel like you needed to escape the party, but you also didn't feel like you yearned for her. That speaks volumes.

 

I think it' natural to be surprised that someone you once shared a life with is now someone you feel disconnected from.

 

It really sounds like TIME + Self-Improvement is the best combo for getting over a toxic, unhealthy situation.

 

This is the best saying when it comes down to exes and I'll keep repeating it everywhere: your best revenge is to be successful. It not only makes you move on, it also makes your ex see what he/she has lost.

Right on.!I'm keeping on my path.

[juniorrocha]

It really sounds like TIME + Self-Improvement is the best combo for getting over a toxic, unhealthy situation.

 

Yes! Since the break up happened, I not once ran to her asking her back, I just continued with my life even though it was very very hard.

 

I think what we all need to see is that this is a learning experience. It hurts, it really does, but you were a rock before that and you're now becoming a fortress.

 

I feel a lot stronger now. This is making me have the most amazing experiences of my life and on top of that I'm getting to know myself better. For the first time ever I'm also not concerned about pursuing a relationship with anyone, given how happy I am right now and how I want to become even better before that.

 

Carry on, even on those days that you feel like hiding under your bed, when nothing feels right, when all you wanted was a hug from that person and you can't have it, just continue carrying on. Don't give up, don't give in, just keep going. Life and time surely holds nice things for you too.

[Heatemyheart89]

Hey

This is great progress ! Congrats ! It is odd when the ex becomes a stranger etc . It's not a bad thing