This texting overload?

[Guitarisgood]

She rescheduled on me 3 times without offering so I moved on. As I'm quite busy at the moment I've kept in touch with her more or less for my own amusement knowing chances are nothing is going to happen and I'd have to make more of an effort meeting others.

 

Thing is she is messaging me 24/7; replying within minutes (no joke), double texting if I don't reply for a few hours and drunk calling/ messaging me. The kicker is that the context of these messages is pretty much her being romantic. Granted there's a few flirtatious texts from me. I know some of you would say here we have your traditional crazy but I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt as she is young.

 

I'm hesitant to ask her out again due to the last few failures to launch. I know some of you would be saying I've been allocated to the texting buddy category but it's weird. I've been there before and the type of messages I'd get in those scenarios differ so much from this and I should know as I've been friendzoned that many times.

 

Any girls have any input? To be honest chances are when I meet someone new she'll end up being but a blip in my memory but for the time being, I am so confused.

[feb87]

She rescheduled on me 3 times without offering so I moved on. As I'm quite busy at the moment I've kept in touch with her more or less for my own amusement knowing chances are nothing is going to happen and I'd have to make more of an effort meeting others.

 

Thing is she is messaging me 24/7; replying within minutes (no joke), double texting if I don't reply for a few hours and drunk calling/ messaging me. The kicker is that the context of these messages is pretty much her being romantic. Granted there's a few flirtatious texts from me. I know some of you would say here we have your traditional crazy but I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt as she is young.

 

I'm hesitant to ask her out again due to the last few failures to launch. I know some of you would be saying I've been allocated to the texting buddy category but it's weird. I've been there before and the type of messages I'd get in those scenarios differ so much from this and I should know as I've been friendzoned that many times.

 

Any girls have any input? To be honest chances are when I meet someone new she'll end up being but a blip in my memory but for the time being, I am so confused.

 

First, sounds like she has cold feet, so STOP RESPONDING!! now in response to the rest of it:

 

Ok, so this does sound like texting overload, but I guess it depends on how young. I think most adult women know not to over-text as it's a killer and off putting...

 

If you want nothing to happen, you need to stop responding to her texts or tell her you don't think it'll work out. Sure, she's annoying, but it's also not fair to string her along.

 

I know there will be women who disagree with me but I am of the opinion that women who excessively contact people they haven't even met are both desperate and insecure. Young or not, this is someone who is using text messages to try and figure out how interested you are.

 

Let her go. You'll be happier for it.

[smudge21]

Is this long distance? I just wonder about all the texting rather than arranging to meet up and keeping things simple. How about instead of just going along with all her texts, you respond with something more taking control. Pretty much telling her how you feel about this and wondering what's going on. Sadly we often get stuck in a situation where we worry about ruining something that may not be that good, but we live in hope it will change, so we keep the status quo. So we respond in kind to what they say and things never move on. Sometimes you have to take a chance and push things along. If she's still flaky after all this, then stick to what you want and walk away.

[beyond]

She rescheduled on me 3 times without offering so I moved on. As I'm quite busy at the moment I've kept in touch with her more or less for my own amusement knowing chances are nothing is going to happen and I'd have to make more of an effort meeting others.

 

Thing is she is messaging me 24/7; replying within minutes (no joke), double texting if I don't reply for a few hours and drunk calling/ messaging me. The kicker is that the context of these messages is pretty much her being romantic. Granted there's a few flirtatious texts from me. I know some of you would say here we have your traditional crazy but I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt as she is young.

 

I'm hesitant to ask her out again due to the last few failures to launch. I know some of you would be saying I've been allocated to the texting buddy category but it's weird. I've been there before and the type of messages I'd get in those scenarios differ so much from this and I should know as I've been friendzoned that many times.

 

Any girls have any input? To be honest chances are when I meet someone new she'll end up being but a blip in my memory but for the time being, I am so confused.

 

There is obviously something about her you like if you are prepared to give her the benefit of the doubt and also send her flirty texts yourself. Given the fact that she has rescheduled on you 3 times (have you actually met up?), I think it's time to put the ball firmly in her court.

I would text her saying you would like to meet and if she is interested to let you know where and when. If she replies with definite plans, great. If she sidesteps around it, you know she just wants a text buddy and if that isn't what you want then block and move on.

[preraph]

You said she's young, soooo maybe texting is ALL she does. Maybe she doesn't have sex, she just texts. To me, you're on two different wavelengths and should just move on.

[Satu]

This would drive me nuts.

 

I use the phone to make an arrangement, and a text to say, "I'll be there in ten."

 

Thats as far as texting goes for me.