love4me1991 Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 So I have been dating this guy that I met on tinder for the last 2 months. We have not had an exclusivity talk . We have been sleeping with each other and we talk everyday. Last night when we were together he was showing me a picture on his phone. When two notifications came up for messeges on tinder. I was a little upset. When I left I texted him later on that it was nice to meet him but obviously is still looking for something else and that we should no longer talk. He texted me back trying to explain and texted me again today saying we should talk in person. I dont know what I should do or if I was overreacting??? Please help me out. Thanks!
Sunnymae Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 I can understand you being upset, but everything else sounds great. Why not meet him and discuss it. He's probably going to tell you that he wants to be exclusive, otherwise what would be the point in meeting. I hope it works out for you. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 ...or he wants to feed you what you want to hear and is, in fact, still looking. If you meet, meet in a public place where there is no chance of having sex. In fact, you should let him know that you need to back off on the sex until you are somewhat convinced that he wasn't only after the sex. Let him work for it. Other than that, I'm not sure how he will be able to explain his way out of the two messages from Tinder. Then again, you two haven't had the exclusivity talk, so the next conservation MUST be about exclusivity...or end it. 2
BaileyB Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 I think you should meet him. Tell him that you won't see him again or sleep with him, until you are exclusive and he stops meeting people on Tinder. Then, he will have a decision to make. I don't know that you want to be sleeping with someone who is dating other people. It's only reasonable. 2
Fruitee Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 After 2 months if he was serious about you he wouldnt be messaging other women in tinder anymore.
smudge21 Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 I never understood the exclusive talk. Surely after 2 months or dating and sleeping together, it's pretty obvious what's going on. It's not a FWB deal clearly. I agree that meeting in a public place to discuss is the best idea, but make sure you make it clear how you feel about all this. If you're still unsure afterwards, then go with your instincts. The early months of any relationship should be the fun happy times, not full of doubts and concerns. 1
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