marxman2015 Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 Have you ever been on a couple of dates (3 or more) with a guy you initially is attracted to and feel good potential as a long term partner, but later decides to let go of him or reject him after some more dates? What were the reasons or what in particular did he do that has turned you off?
leogirl876 Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 Have you ever been on a couple of dates (3 or more) with a guy you initially is attracted to and feel good potential as a long term partner, but later decides to let go of him or reject him after some more dates? What were the reasons or what in particular did he do that has turned you off? Now this has been years ago, but it still applies. For me if I feel like the guy is pushing me too hard, too fast for sex then it'll turn me off and I'll call things off. I've had guys recently do that on the second date, and again that's too fast for me. For me, I think it's something that progresses, not forced. I think most women if they don't feel pressure would sleep with a guy by the 5th date, but if you're pushing me hard on the second, I'm out. 1
Versacehottie Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 yes a few times. one time that particularly comes to mind was this great guy. I had so much fun with him and he was a great person (good heart, gentleman, good friend to everyone; he was funny and had his stuff together but was really humble about it and he planned good dates). He was a tiny bit shy which I mostly thought was cute. And he did some very sweet things for me--which stand out as my favorite part. I think the real spark though was slow to start and would kinda come and go. It could have had something to do with timing on either end (definitely a possibility on mine). While I am pretty sure he was a person of depth, we didn't really "go there" when we were together. So things didn't really progress that much--they stayed really surface-y and more friend-like than anything. He also had a great girl friend who was obviously into him and he even told me about it but he wasn't attracted to her which it why it never happened with them. But they were really close in a way that I couldn't really imagine investing into or telling him that he should stop. One day he told me he had been training for a sports event that was the upcoming weekend. I think he'd been training the whole 2-3 months we dated. I didn't like that I hadn't even heard about it before then since it was obviously important to him and not really a private thing. It just called attention to the actual "distance" between us and I felt like the crossroad was right in front of me so I chose not to continue. Also coming to mind was another great guy who I met a day after breaking up with someone else. He didn't do anything wrong and had all the things I would have liked, it was just terrible timing. I'd guess when it happens that the reason is bad timing or not compatible ENOUGH to stick it out or want to try. Good luck with whatever has you asking this question.
preraph Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 Boredom. Loss of attraction due to the way he is. Find out he's not smart enough. Find out he's clingy or anything creepy.
BaileyB Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 I would have to say boredom. Sometimes, you meet a man who should be perfect and you go out a few times waiting for the feelings to develop, but they never do. I look for a guy who is fun, interesting to talk too, and has a sense of humor. When the guy doesn't show me see things and the feeling dont develop, I have sadly let him go... 1
spiderowl Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 (edited) Have you ever been on a couple of dates (3 or more) with a guy you initially is attracted to and feel good potential as a long term partner, but later decides to let go of him or reject him after some more dates? What were the reasons or what in particular did he do that has turned you off? Yes. I gradually realised he was not as he had portrayed himself to be. His job was not really as he'd described it, he seemed quite naive about such important things as contraception, and his personal hygiene was not brilliant. On top of which, I found that the conversations where he rang to see how I was were all about him. He talked the whole time about his situation and I could tell he was bored if I spent a few seconds on mine. All in all, I just lost interest. The final straw was when he ordered a prawn sandwich in a restaurant when we were out. I hate seafood and could not imagine spending any more time with him. Bit extreme, I know, but it was just confirmation for me that we were not suited. That was in one case only. Edited September 4, 2016 by spiderowl
Ami1uwant Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 This is true no matter if it's a man or woman. After the first few dates the hype snd excitement fads a bit snd the other person reveals their true character or starts to dhow their annoying habits and quirks as well as getting to know someone more you have a better understanding of what they want. For women pulling away with men i...the want of sex by men on women can turn them off.
Sometymeswhy Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 Have you ever been on a couple of dates (3 or more) with a guy you initially is attracted to and feel good potential as a long term partner, but later decides to let go of him or reject him after some more dates? What were the reasons or what in particular did he do that has turned you off? I dated a guy that I was initially attracted to. The first dates were fun and lighthearted with physical chemistry. Extremely good looking and successful. I was turned off when I arrived at his place and he was ordering a Harley Davidson tshirt and was on hold for a long time. The thing is he doesn't own or drive a Harley. He also wears a HD leather jacket. Thought he was a poser. Plus I learned that we were political opposites. I expect to differ on some points but this guy and I found no common ground. Aside from that we had little to talk about. His social skills We're lacking. We just didn't click. At restaurants he would look over my shoulder or on his phone. I realized he just wasn't comfortable in his own skin. After I blew him off he asked me out again. I thought it was clear.
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