Boyfriend of 1 month... arguing like crazy already? He just broke up with me?

[ExpatInItaly]

He told me he loved me multiple times and that he cares/really likes me. I constantly asked him if he cared or even liked me because it really doesn't feel like it, and he gets so mad because he said he tells me constantly that he only wants me. I even wrote him a letter to show that I really care. It was special to me. He read it and then showed me he did. But like a few days I went over I tried to see where the letter was in his room and it was on the floor. I playfully slapped/pat him slightly, not a big slap, and I said hey whys my letter on the floor that's special to me. He got really defensive and angry. He said idk my mom probably was cleaning my desk and it fell. He threw a tantrum. He used that against me later in an argument and said he didnt like how I slapped him for something he didnt do like having the letter fall on the floor.

 

But do his action support his words?

No, they don't.

 

You can't force someone to care when they just don't.

[moonchild94]

And like your boyfriend, would they also be a group of underemployed 20-somethings who live with their mommy's and daddy's, waste their days playing video games, and are still 'finding themselves' while the rest of their peers are actually moving forward productively?

 

If so, consider the source.

 

Find someone to date whose actually got some drive and ambition and isn't an emotional cripple. This guy will still be living with his parents when he's 30+ and will have moved on from his illustrious concession stand 'career' to stocking the shelves at night at his local Walmart. You're wasting your time, OP.

 

I dont get it, he is surrounded by so many successful people. His brother is an accountant and his best friend is in a corporate job. His best friend says I'm smart and independent. He told my ex that I was a woman and not a girl, to treat me right. He used to constantly always talk to me and say he really liked me. But as I started to get more serious and open with him, he started to say he felt smothered. The more I was open about what bothered me and I started to become insecure, he says I've changed. Every time we argue, I'm afraid he will leave me. This time we argued, he left me. Exactly what I was scared about. I seemed to always nit pick everything. I was trying to be understanding. I listened while he cursed at me. I was calm and didn't yell back. I really just don't understand what I did wrong here. I don't know why he left. I don't know why he was stressed. All I asked was if he was cheating on me, that's all because his vibe was different and he felt different and he was ignoring me a little. Even with the sex part I feel used. I let him take my virginity and that pisses me off too.

[randall]

The way you describe this guy makes him sound like a total loser. Considering you've only been with him one month I'm amazed you spent this amount of effort to write about him.

 

From the way you describe it the only good thing he did for you was to suggest the break up.

[moonchild94]

The way you describe this guy makes him sound like a total loser. Considering you've only been with him one month I'm amazed you spent this amount of effort to write about him.

 

From the way you describe it the only good thing he did for you was to suggest the break up.

 

Everyone is saying that. All my friends and people I talk to, but I didnt see him as one. I tried really hard to tell him I appreciate him but something made me feel insecure with him. Thats why I was so negative and always asked if he was really into me or not. I dont believe I'm crazy but maybe he got sick of my overthinking. Idk. His friends were helping him to become an assistant manager at a food place so he's trying I guess? I wanted to be there for him while he tried but he left me so that sucks.

[moonchild94]

The way you describe this guy makes him sound like a total loser. Considering you've only been with him one month I'm amazed you spent this amount of effort to write about him.

 

From the way you describe it the only good thing he did for you was to suggest the break up.

 

Everyone I'm with regardless of the months I care about a lot.

That's why it's always one sided. I guess I become too suffocating I guess?

Oh well.

[moonchild94]

Well, after he broke up with me on 09/03.

The next day I did my own thing. I went to hang out with friends and had fun.

He checked my snapchat story the whole time.

That night at 2am/3am he called me 3 times, sent 3 text and a voicemail.

He said I was ****ty for not answering, but I was asleep?

I called him about 10 times today and left a voicemail. Sent him 3 text and a facebook message. I asked him why cant we just leave on a good note? Why are you calling when you broke up with me?

 

He ignored me again. I finally sent a text saying goodbye and he broke my heart.

 

I dont know why he contacted me after saying lets not talk for a while.

I was doing perfectly fine and then he showed up again.

But now I deleted him off facebook, instagram and snapchat.

I dont have any feelings but I feel disrespected and very numb.

Now I'm all alone waiting to see if I might be pregnant or have an STD because I have weird stuff coming out from me.

Hooray for my first boyfriend, right!?