Boyfriend of 1 month... arguing like crazy already? He just broke up with me?

[moonchild94]

My boyfriend (ex now) just told me we shouldn't talk for a while. To me, that means he broke up with me. He said he had mixed feelings and was highly angry.

 

So, I'm a 22 year old that bounces between jobs trying to finish college and just find myself/career. I live on my own but recently I've been having a horrible time.

 

My boyfriend is 25. He still lives with his parents, works at a concession stand selling food. He gambles, drinks ( a lot), smokes and plays computer games all day. He doesn't know what he wants to do in life yet either. I've been having problems because when we moved too fast. He told me he loved me within the first month. I got a little spooked because I thought how? You barley know me? But I went along with it and reciprocated it back slowly. He throws tantrums and even stomps like a 7 year old sometimes. He drinks so much and then drives home and it concerns me as well. Whenever I try to be lovey dovey and give him things I feel like he doesn't appreciate them. I wrote him a heartfelt letter about how I felt. I also made him a gift for his birthday and he tells me he doesn't like gifts and he probably wont like mines. Whenever I want to try new things such as archery or paintball or go to an aquarium rather than sit at a bar, he asks why I want to do weird things and that he doesn't want to do them. Whenever I ask him to talk things out in person, he doesn't want to and rather do it over the phone. When I went to a party with him, we were watching games on his phone. His friend (whose a girl) came and sat by close and asked what kind of games we were watching. We were sitting by each other close so he can hear everything. She asked if I was a coworker.. he didn't say anything so I felt embarrassed to say no he's my bf. When he was upset for losing $600 gambling, I went to him to comfort and wipe his tears/ try to cheer him up. He told me I could bring anything up to him that bothers me. Every time I bring something up, it results into an argument and he yells at me. He yells and then blames me for waking up his parents because he's yelling. I told him why won't you go outside for a second.. he says no. He was my first sex partner and we never used protection. I asked him next time lets use condoms, we never did. The only time we started using them was when he blasted inside of me and he bought me a morning after pill. After that pill, we went again unprotected. I asked him what if I did get pregnant, what would happen? He said he didn't know, he'll get a second job. I asked him another time, he said we would struggle or that I would be his baby mama..... I didn't like that at all.

 

Now I'm not perfect, I doubted him a lot. He poured his feelings out to me within the month, but his actions always made me think he wasn't really that into me. He had to always reassure me that he really likes me and loves me. He felt that I had too much high expectations because I always googled my questions and slammed them on him so he always felt like he was doing wrong. After arguments, I tried to go back normal. Usually we talk on the phone, battle on games, and he calls me after work. One time he started distancing himself. I asked if I was smothering him. He said no... I began to worry that I did something wrong, He then later in another day said I was smothering him and stressing him out. But the talking we were doing was our normal routine? We always talked on break or after his work, so when I noticed that he stopped I thought something was wrong. I thought he was starting to talk to someone else and swaying away.

E.G.-He posted a new profile picture. His older coworker posted a comment and I did immediately after. I'm trying to support him, I gave him the little heart and said Nice! He likes her comment and then ignores mine. I start to think the worse again that maybe he's mad. I brought it up and he says im petty and that he didn't see it. But I know he saw it because I commented exactly the same time as the coworker. I dont mean to be worked up about it, it just didn't feel right because I'm the gf. At least just like it and acknowledge it. Another example, his friend, who is a girl, comments on his stuff recently. She has a bf apparently, but I didn't know. He always replied and liked her stuff.. and the coworkers, but not mine. I understand that's so stupid, it's just social media, who cares, but I did. So I brought it up and asked was he cheating on me. He got extremely angry and cursed me out. He says I changed when we first started dating. That I was clingy now. i asked him before and he said he wanted me to be clingy?

 

Majority of his gf's cheated on him so that hurt him a lot that I asked.

I tried walking away and telling him I need to get help first for my insecurity and that we need space. When I told him, he immediately said no, we dont need space. Don't go. I'm your bf, I'm here for you even at your lowest time. He's here until the end. It's his birthday tomorrow and we are arguing like crazy. He's stressed out and said we shouldn't talk for a while. I honestly couldn't handle that. I need to know if we are here or not. It was 5am and he was tired and told me he would talk to me tomorrow, while yelling and cursing at me. So I told him I'll just leave because I'm stressing him out and I'm a burden. I apologized for everything and for being a bad experience for him. I told him I'll take a pregnancy test and if it's positive I'll do what I need to get rid of it. I told him he was a good guy and this was all my fault and I hope he had a good birthday. I feel like this is not entirely my fault, but idk my head hurts. My friend says I'm way too young to be dealing with this. His coworkers said I'm crazy and that I'm not worth it and to dump me. But his close friends tell him that they understand where he's coming from, but that he's wrong. The fact that his coworkers think that of me already just makes me feel like crap. Idk what to do. Idek if he will respond. I'm devastated and my head hurts. I tried really hard but it seems like it wasn't enough or I was too negative. Maybe im a toxic horrible person, so i walked away because i felt like he didnt deserve that. any tips?

[KatZee]

You're in a highly toxic, unhealthy, verbally and emotionally abusive relationship.

 

It's been a month. Thank GOD he did the hard work for you and left. Block his number and do not reach out to him ever again.

 

He's a very broken and manipulative person, who from the sounds of it, has a drinking problem as well.

 

Move on.

[Satu]

You need to let this go.

 

It's not healthy.

 

 

*No direct contact.

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block any means he might use to contact you.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect contact through third parties.

*De-friend or delete him from all social media.

*No monitoring of him on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he is doing or saying.

 

 

Take care.

[moonchild94]

You're in a highly toxic, unhealthy, verbally and emotionally abusive relationship.

 

It's been a month. Thank GOD he did the hard work for you and left. Block his number and do not reach out to him ever again.

 

He's a very broken and manipulative person, who from the sounds of it, has a drinking problem as well.

 

Move on.

 

But what about me? What do I need to work on? I know I can be very negative and I feel bad. I told him I would get a psychiatrist. Maybe this was my fault when I try to bring up everything. He said he never had to deal with this with his past gf's this early. Sometimes when we play games, I would yell hey that's bullshi* in a playful manner because he would win, and he replied saying I was bullshi*, in a joking way. i told him dont talk to me that way. He gets mad and says im negative and it's just a joke and I need to stop. But I've never heard of a bf jokingly talk to a gf like that. Idk, I made this gift for him and now I can't even give it to him. Yes, he does drink a lot. I goes to bars daily in the week and it concerns me. I told him I have clinical depression and to be patient with me. But he always yells, so I result and tell him don't worry about my depression I'm okay. But he says he cares and to not tell him to care because it's not fair. I remember also, when I first asked if he would drive to me he said no, i'm too far. I always drive to him despite car troubles and he lives on the opposite side of town. I had my friend meet him last night and she said he's okay but I shouldn't deal with this at all and she would never deal with this. He got mad and said I was testing him/ falsely accusing him and said we shouldn't talk for a while. So I apologized and said he will never hear from me again then.

[moonchild94]

You need to let this go.

 

It's not healthy.

 

 

*No direct contact.

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block any means he might use to contact you.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect contact through third parties.

*De-friend or delete him from all social media.

*No monitoring of him on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he is doing or saying.

 

 

Take care.

 

I told him it's not healthy and until I get help he should stay away, but he wouldn't allow me to. Said he is here for me and he's trying to improve as well, but I'm not allowing him too.

[Versacehottie]

But what about me? What do I need to work on? I know I can be very negative and I feel bad. I told him I would get a psychiatrist. Maybe this was my fault when I try to bring up everything. He said he never had to deal with this with his past gf's this early. Sometimes when we play games, I would yell hey that's bullshi* in a playful manner because he would win, and he replied saying I was bullshi*, in a joking way. i told him dont talk to me that way. He gets mad and says im negative and it's just a joke and I need to stop. But I've never heard of a bf jokingly talk to a gf like that. Idk, I made this gift for him and now I can't even give it to him. Yes, he does drink a lot. I goes to bars daily in the week and it concerns me. I told him I have clinical depression and to be patient with me. But he always yells, so I result and tell him don't worry about my depression I'm okay. But he says he cares and to not tell him to care because it's not fair. I remember also, when I first asked if he would drive to me he said no, i'm too far. I always drive to him despite car troubles and he lives on the opposite side of town. I had my friend meet him last night and she said he's okay but I shouldn't deal with this at all and she would never deal with this. He got mad and said I was testing him/ falsely accusing him and said we shouldn't talk for a while. So I apologized and said he will never hear from me again then.

 

Well, I would say that allowing this behavior of his into your life and even questioning whether or not to stay or be with him. If you have better self-esteem or more of a sense of self, you would never find the things he has done to you acceptable. Even the ones that don't directly affect you (like his drinking or his opinion about not wanting to try the things you want to try) you would be able to see that they WILL impact your life in some way down the road AND that this make him an unsuitable person for someone like you if you want to better your life, not add drama and problems. He's dead weight. Consider yourself lucky if he's gone from your life. Be strong. You don't need this.

[BaileyB]

I read the first few lines of your post and thought - this is not healthy. Why would you want to be with a guy who gambles, drinks too much, smokes, lives with parents and plays computer games all day. Enough said.

 

Next...

[moonchild94]

I read the first few lines of your post and thought - this is not healthy. Why would you want to be with a guy who gambles, drinks too much, smokes, lives with parents and plays computer games all day. Enough said.

 

Next...

 

Even when I said I'll be leaving and this will be the last he heard from me, he didn't care. I just saw that he was on a game and he didn't even try to stop me from leaving. I thought he "loved" me. I guess he's worried more about his birthday than me. I was nothing the whole time... I knew it was one sided, he just strung me along was all.

[moonchild94]

You need to let this go.

 

It's not healthy.

 

 

*No direct contact.

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block any means he might use to contact you.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect contact through third parties.

*De-friend or delete him from all social media.

*No monitoring of him on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he is doing or saying.

 

 

Take care.

 

It's okay. He won't reply to me. I just saw he'd rather be on his games than work out or even say goodbye to me.

[leogirl876]

I quit reading after you told me he drinks all the time, smokes, plays on the computer and has no idea what he wants to be when he grows up. He sounds like a loser, dump him!!!

[moonchild94]

I quit reading after you told me he drinks all the time, smokes, plays on the computer and has no idea what he wants to be when he grows up. He sounds like a loser, dump him!!!

 

I told him I still cared for him and that everything was my fault and he didn't even try to say anything to me. I put the blame on myself so he wouldn't feel horrible and it's not even entirely my fault. He didn't even say goodbye.... What if I am pregnant? Is he going to ignore that fact too? He sure isn't worried about that. Idk, this sucks. He said he cared for me so much, but where is he now? Again, I was fooled and strung along.

[KatZee]

But what about me? What do I need to work on? I know I can be very negative and I feel bad. I told him I would get a psychiatrist. Maybe this was my fault when I try to bring up everything. He said he never had to deal with this with his past gf's this early. Sometimes when we play games, I would yell hey that's bullshi* in a playful manner because he would win, and he replied saying I was bullshi*, in a joking way. i told him dont talk to me that way. He gets mad and says im negative and it's just a joke and I need to stop. But I've never heard of a bf jokingly talk to a gf like that. Idk, I made this gift for him and now I can't even give it to him. Yes, he does drink a lot. I goes to bars daily in the week and it concerns me. I told him I have clinical depression and to be patient with me. But he always yells, so I result and tell him don't worry about my depression I'm okay. But he says he cares and to not tell him to care because it's not fair. I remember also, when I first asked if he would drive to me he said no, i'm too far. I always drive to him despite car troubles and he lives on the opposite side of town. I had my friend meet him last night and she said he's okay but I shouldn't deal with this at all and she would never deal with this. He got mad and said I was testing him/ falsely accusing him and said we shouldn't talk for a while. So I apologized and said he will never hear from me again then.

 

What about you? Perhaps check out some individual counseling to find out why you think choosing, and remaining with abusive partners is an acceptable thing to do.

 

You cannot speak to abusers in a rational way and tell them to treat you better. That's not how this works. When you become vulnerable with him like this, telling him how negative you are, how depressed you are, how this, how that... he's going to USE IT AGAINST YOU. He's going to use these things to push you down. To keep you down. To keep you in this relationship and believing his abuse is not abuse, and that it's acceptable.

 

And to be honest, based on everything you wrote, I don't see anything wrong with you. Making a joke doesn't make you a bad person. Being openly communicative doesn't make you a bad person. This doesn't mean you're a "negative" person.

 

Your ex-boyfriend is intentionally trying to make you feel like a piece of garbage, and his ultimate GOAL is to make you feel like everything going wrong is YOUR FAULT. This is how emotional abusers work. And to be honest, you're already behaving like a victim of abuse. Walking on eggshells. Constantly apologizing for things rational people don't apologize for. Telling him that YOU'RE going to change, when HE'S the one with the problems!

 

Stay away from him.

[BaileyB]

Even when I said I'll be leaving and this will be the last he heard from me, he didn't care. I just saw that he was on a game and he didn't even try to stop me from leaving. I thought he "loved" me. I guess he's worried more about his birthday than me. I was nothing the whole time... I knew it was one sided, he just strung me along was all.

 

Why have you posted virtually the same message three times, that he didn't care and didn't try to stop you from leaving. Hurrah!

 

Are you wanting people to tell you how sorry we are, because that won't happen. He is a loser and you are better off without him. Be glad he let you go easily... And think about your own decision making that allowed you to "chose" a guy who is obviously a very unhealthy relationship partner.

[BaileyB]

I told him I still cared for him and that everything was my fault and he didn't even try to say anything to me. I put the blame on myself so he wouldn't feel horrible.

 

THIS, is a problem. Very unhealthy. Seek counselling before you get yourself into a more damaging relationship next time!

[LexiB]

You need to work on your self esteem. Seriously, sweetie: seek counseling. Figure out why you want to be with someone who treats you like complete and utter garbage and shows no respect for you at all.

 

Take some time to sort yourself out, or this is the type of loser you'll continue to attract in life.

 

Thank god it was only a month!

[moonchild94]

What about you? Perhaps check out some individual counseling to find out why you think choosing, and remaining with abusive partners is an acceptable thing to do.

 

You cannot speak to abusers in a rational way and tell them to treat you better. That's not how this works. When you become vulnerable with him like this, telling him how negative you are, how depressed you are, how this, how that... he's going to USE IT AGAINST YOU. He's going to use these things to push you down. To keep you down. To keep you in this relationship and believing his abuse is not abuse, and that it's acceptable.

 

And to be honest, based on everything you wrote, I don't see anything wrong with you. Making a joke doesn't make you a bad person. Being openly communicative doesn't make you a bad person. This doesn't mean you're a "negative" person.

 

Your ex-boyfriend is intentionally trying to make you feel like a piece of garbage, and his ultimate GOAL is to make you feel like everything going wrong is YOUR FAULT. This is how emotional abusers work. And to be honest, you're already behaving like a victim of abuse. Walking on eggshells. Constantly apologizing for things rational people don't apologize for. Telling him that YOU'RE going to change, when HE'S the one with the problems!

 

Stay away from him.

 

 

In the back of my mind I knew this, but I have a hard time letting people go. We started arguing because I had him meet my friend out of the blue.

She told me she got a vibe from him, that he's okay but I'm too young for this. He told me to tell him what the verdict was. I told him I'll tell him and wont sugar coat it, because thats what we agreed on upon first dating.

I told him she thinks he's okay and cool, but needs to step it up in the boyfriend department. He called me and yelled at me and said she was bias because shes my friend. He understands he needs to step it up but that wasn't fair. That he's new to a relationship because he hasn't been in one for years.

We continued to argue and he finally broke up with me while mad and said we shouldn't talk for a while. So I decided to remove myself because I'm not helping him and I'm making him miserable. I can be very depressing and I told him I will get help. I even said I can be suicidal but not to worry about me.

I tried really hard to be happy and remain calm but him cursing at me the whole time made me feel horrible. He really is a nice guy and I tried to help him. I feel like he can be so much more but he ditched me. It makes me feel horrible because an alcoholic doesn't even want me. He used all those words such as love, care for me and like me so much, he didn't even realize that he didn't even mean them. If he loved me, he wouldn't have let me walk away like that. It hurts a lot. I put myself out there this time... being vulnerable and I was left in the dust. Now I'm even more nervous to date someone else and open up to them.

[moonchild94]

What about you? Perhaps check out some individual counseling to find out why you think choosing, and remaining with abusive partners is an acceptable thing to do.

 

You cannot speak to abusers in a rational way and tell them to treat you better. That's not how this works. When you become vulnerable with him like this, telling him how negative you are, how depressed you are, how this, how that... he's going to USE IT AGAINST YOU. He's going to use these things to push you down. To keep you down. To keep you in this relationship and believing his abuse is not abuse, and that it's acceptable.

 

And to be honest, based on everything you wrote, I don't see anything wrong with you. Making a joke doesn't make you a bad person. Being openly communicative doesn't make you a bad person. This doesn't mean you're a "negative" person.

 

Your ex-boyfriend is intentionally trying to make you feel like a piece of garbage, and his ultimate GOAL is to make you feel like everything going wrong is YOUR FAULT. This is how emotional abusers work. And to be honest, you're already behaving like a victim of abuse. Walking on eggshells. Constantly apologizing for things rational people don't apologize for. Telling him that YOU'RE going to change, when HE'S the one with the problems!

 

Stay away from him.

 

The joke part was him. I was being too sensitive I guess.

He told me I was bull**** after a game, he joked that my skin was too dark ( im very insecure about that) and that caused an argument. So thats why I said sometimes I can be negative.

[spiderowl]

It all sounds far too dramatic for a relationship of one month. I doubt he could know if he was in love with you after than period, so I would definitely assume it was physical longing talking there and not real love.

 

You both sound pretty young to be in this situation. He sounds childish - clinging but misbehaving - and you sound well fairly reasonable in lots of ways but you are expecting too much from such a young relationship.

 

A break sounds a good idea. In fact, why go back to being with a childish guy who does not take you into consideration at all? Your feelings matter too - very important that you remember that phrase!

[moonchild94]

It all sounds far too dramatic for a relationship of one month. I doubt he could know if he was in love with you after than period, so I would definitely assume it was physical longing talking there and not real love.

 

You both sound pretty young to be in this situation. He sounds childish - clinging but misbehaving - and you sound well fairly reasonable in lots of ways but you are expecting too much from such a young relationship.

 

A break sounds a good idea. In fact, why go back to being with a childish guy who does not take you into consideration at all? Your feelings matter too - very important that you remember that phrase!

 

That's what I thought too. With him saying I love you so early made me question everything. When I was open about it, he yelled and said I hurt his feelings because I always doubt him. I even told him I felt insecure and worried that he was just using me as a sex object, and he got angry at me. He just turned 25 and I'm 22. I'm old fashioned, I tend to look t at the future and focus on one guy only. I kept telling him I want a partner I can grow with and walk with in life and he's not allowing me to do that with him. I was expecting too much and he told me I was expecting too much. I always expect too much. I feel like it's my fault that my depression and low self esteem always questioned him. Sometimes I got suicidal thoughts, but so did he and I comforted him and wiped his tears. But when I'm down or angry or question something that just bothers me, he throws a fit. Or when he jokingly called me bull**** and that I was dark, that hurt me, and he blamed me for causing the argument when I was down. Not even all my fault and I had to say random things just to keep it cordial and telling him he deserves better, and he didnt even come after me. I'm crushed and I'm confused. I dont understand how his coworkers can tell him they dealt with girls like me before and I'm crazy and tell him to dump me. Actions like these... shows me my gut feelings were right. I wish I could talk to him face to face about this but I dont think he will talk to me ever again, which sucks. This all happened a day before his birthday and I made him a very special gift and now what am I going to do with it. I dont know what I did to deserve this.

[spiderowl]

It is not your fault. The guy is just too impulsive and inconsiderate for you. There is nothing wrong in wanting constancy with someone and reassurance, so don't blame yourself for that.

 

Because you are feeling down, you probably assume things are your fault when they are not. This guy would be difficult for anyone to deal with and I doubt he has relationships that last long.

 

It was not a good example of a first start for you. Hopefully the next guy you get involved with will be more even-tempered, less impulsive, and know how to treat a woman with respect. You should expect these things from the start and learn to get rid of any guy who does not know how to treat a person.

 

Think of it as learning what to avoid, rather than a lost love affair. It is possible to be very drawn to someone but also not to see that you can't have the good qualities with that person without putting up with far more bad qualities. That is what keeps people in abusive relationships. Please don't risk going back if it seems possible.

[moonchild94]

It is not your fault. The guy is just too impulsive and inconsiderate for you. There is nothing wrong in wanting constancy with someone and reassurance, so don't blame yourself for that.

 

Because you are feeling down, you probably assume things are your fault when they are not. This guy would be difficult for anyone to deal with and I doubt he has relationships that last long.

 

It was not a good example of a first start for you. Hopefully the next guy you get involved with will be more even-tempered, less impulsive, and know how to treat a woman with respect. You should expect these things from the start and learn to get rid of any guy who does not know how to treat a person.

 

Think of it as learning what to avoid, rather than a lost love affair. It is possible to be very drawn to someone but also not to see that you can't have the good qualities with that person without putting up with far more bad qualities. That is what keeps people in abusive relationships. Please don't risk going back if it seems possible.

 

It is my fault.. He always showed me who he was with. He always told me when he was going home from bar and text during it. He always confessed to me while he was drunk how he really felt. I made his problems mine and created drama out of it. I became insecure, I guess I just wanted him not to drink so much and try new things. I was putting too much pressure on him. I started to get clingy and wanted to see him more because my work was close to his home now. I dont know, I just wish we could end it nicely. With him ignoring me is making me feel horrible. I have such a big heart and I care too much about everyone and everything and I guess thats my downfall. I'm always trying to improve myself and I was hoping he was too. I told him we met for a reason. But my stupid insecurities got the best of me. I'm sure everyone sees me as a horrible, clingy, crazy and insecure girl that drove away a guy that liked me for who I was. I feel stupid.

[Lois_Griffin]

His coworkers said I'm crazy and that I'm not worth it and to dump me.

And like your boyfriend, would they also be a group of underemployed 20-somethings who live with their mommy's and daddy's, waste their days playing video games, and are still 'finding themselves' while the rest of their peers are actually moving forward productively?

 

If so, consider the source.

 

Find someone to date whose actually got some drive and ambition and isn't an emotional cripple. This guy will still be living with his parents when he's 30+ and will have moved on from his illustrious concession stand 'career' to stocking the shelves at night at his local Walmart. You're wasting your time, OP.

[ExpatInItaly]

Girl, you really need to learn to love yourself enough to set some reasonable standards for a boyfriend.

 

He's a complete loser who doesn't even like you very much. He's not showing that he cares because, well, he doesn't. He's not invested in you so it's easy for him to let you walk away.

 

I would never in a million years go out on even one date with a man-child like this. You shouldn't be either.

[moonchild94]

And like your boyfriend, would they also be a group of underemployed 20-somethings who live with their mommy's and daddy's, waste their days playing video games, and are still 'finding themselves' while the rest of their peers are actually moving forward productively?

 

If so, consider the source.

 

Find someone to date whose actually got some drive and ambition and isn't an emotional cripple. This guy will still be living with his parents when he's 30+ and will have moved on from his illustrious concession stand 'career' to stocking the shelves at night at his local Walmart. You're wasting your time, OP.

 

He knows I have ambition and I want a future. I told him I want to travel. I was insecure one day and told him I lied to him by telling him I went to work but I didn't. I was on the phone with him the whole time/slept on the phone with him. I walked out of a job and I've been feeling horrible about it. He used it against me and said that because I lied once, I would probably lie again.I've never lied before except that, he says I hide stuff now and I'm a liar in his book. I honestly don't see how I'm crazy. I play games with him because he likes it, I eat some of his favorite foods for him, I have my own place and car, and I'm trying to finish school. I drove to him a lot as well. Yes, his old job was at Walmart except doing food. He cried to me saying he hates his life and he was depressed about it. That I chose a boring boyfriend. I kept telling him no I didnt, he's a good guy and I know he can do it. I always wanted to try new things with him like going to an aquarium or paintball but he said no they were weird. How he let me leave so easily really hurts. I mean granted everytime we argued before I asked if he wanted to breakup and he got angry because he said why do you think I will leave so much we are just arguing? Maybe he got sick of my constant overthinking. But I dont think it's fair because he overthought too. I removed myself and told him I hope he finds someone and I'm really sorry for everything. I havent heard from him since and it sucks.

[moonchild94]

Girl, you really need to learn to love yourself enough to set some reasonable standards for a boyfriend.

 

He's a complete loser who doesn't even like you very much. He's not showing that he cares because, well, he doesn't. He's not invested in you so it's easy for him to let you walk away.

 

I would never in a million years go out on even one date with a man-child like this. You shouldn't be either.

 

He told me he loved me multiple times and that he cares/really likes me. I constantly asked him if he cared or even liked me because it really doesn't feel like it, and he gets so mad because he said he tells me constantly that he only wants me. I even wrote him a letter to show that I really care. It was special to me. He read it and then showed me he did. But like a few days I went over I tried to see where the letter was in his room and it was on the floor. I playfully slapped/pat him slightly, not a big slap, and I said hey whys my letter on the floor that's special to me. He got really defensive and angry. He said idk my mom probably was cleaning my desk and it fell. He threw a tantrum. He used that against me later in an argument and said he didnt like how I slapped him for something he didnt do like having the letter fall on the floor.