Broken727 Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 Im a lesbian and my girlfriend and i were together for 9 years.. in that time we lived together had a domestic partnership and were deep in love.. i never doubted our love.. we were inseperable and close as ever... Last summer i started noticing she wanted to hang out more and more and not be home.. she was never one to sleep out but begin tellin me she wanted to sleep by her mothers house which was just a few blocks from where we lived.. i allowed it becuase i didnt think nothing of it.. but when i would ask her to stay arguments would come.. that told me she was cheating. After doing some research i found out she was cheating with a guy from my old neighborhood that i met her in and where we spent most our whole relationship. (the whole area knows us as a couple).. This was June when i discovered this.. I begged her to work out our relationship and she said she wanted to.. but could never give us the time. .she was always focused on going to his house.. by december she broke up with me abd began moving SOME of her things out.. she said she didn t wana lose me but needed time to think what she wanted.. in my head she was choosing already but she didnt see it that way... We stayed in contact.. she would still come over and at times we were intimate.. even tho i kno it wasnt safe since she was sleeping with a man.. i just felt since she kept coming bck we had a chance.. By march i found out she married this guy.. Many of my friends reached out n told me what she did.. i was so embarressed, felt betrayed and stupid.. But a few days later she was on the phone crying to me telling me she made a mistake and wanted us to be together again.. i hesitated becuase her getting married hurt me so bad. but i agred to give us another chance.. It wouldnt be simple though.. she married this man and he has his citizenship on the line... so her walking away easy wasnt sumthing he wanted her to do.. we planned to move in together in a new apartment at the end of this month.. september... 4 days ago i found out she was pregnant by him... now shes saying she wants to keep it.. she knows if she keeps it that will be the end for us.. i expressed that to her and she knows that as well. i dnt wana force her to abort a child.. but what about everything we had planned? what about me? Now im trying to see how in the world im going to get over this.. i got my heartbroke for the second time... And to me the worse part is all of my old friends still see her in the neighborhood except now its with him.. and soon it will be with her baby... I cant eat sleep do anything. my skin color doesnt even look the same.. i pray for the day tocome that i get over this.
CarrieT Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 It doesn't matter if she cheated on you with a man or a woman - she is a cheater and liar. Why would you want that back in your life? Does her husband know of your existence? Maybe you and he should have a little meeting to compare notes... You pray for the day you will get over this but the easiest way is to let her go, block her, and go No Contact until she is out of your system. 1
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