pinkdiamond Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 In late may 2016 i met a guy online after chatting online for a few days. He is 31 and i am 21. He seemed to love me from the first date onwards. I was not that into him though. He Asked me to live in his apartment's spare room but i did not accept. When i went to bangkok for a trip, he offered that i stay in his bangkok holiday apartment but i did not accept his offer. He wanted to see me almost everyday but i only met him once or twice a week cos i needed some space. But we text almost everyday. He is nice to me. He wanted sex...i told him he is not my bf and he replied he can be. Eventually we had sex...i still didnt treat him as a bf still. He calls me sometimes but i never pick up his calls. He told me it is very suspicious and i must be with other guys (wtf?! I did not pick up cos i did not want to talk to him) He is addicted to sleeping pills and gave me some to try. In early august, while high on sleeping pills, i told him again he is not my bf . He replied he is my bf. But in late august, when he was sleeping, i searched his stuff and found out he was hiding something big. He lied to me about his name. He also lied that he is single. In reality he separated from his wife in april 2016 but not legally divorced yet. Legally he still married. His wife is 23 now. I read her blog. She resembles me in appearance a little (not very much though) but seems to have different personality from me. On 25 august night i met him and while high on sleeping pills(stupid me!) Told him that i found out these things and that i read her blog. He was very upset and pissed off. (Well, but her blog was open to public and he cannot hide this sort of thing forever). The next day i found out he told his wife to make the blog private. He told me i upset him in every way i could, i piss him off everyday and that i act like a princess. He said he separated cos of differences with his wife but does not want to talk about it. He became less affectionate towards me. I last saw him on 31 august night and i stayed overnight. He made mean comments about me. In bed together He said i was never his gf, just **** buddies. He said he changed his mind and does not want me to stay in his spare room anymore. He said he does not want to see me again. I was hurt! He ****ed me and while ****ing he said he has ****ed a lot of girls who are not his gfs. He also asked if i want him to **** me. I was hurt and did not reply. Apparently he got turned off and stopped ****ing. On 1 september At around 630am i booked Uber and left his house. I just stepped out of the house when he asked me to cancel the uber booking and stay longer. I refused him because i felt so hurt by him. I texted " i thought you do not want to see me again" when i just got inside uber. He did not reply. And i did not text him after that. I miss him now. How to save this?i only knew him for 3 months. Is this his rebound relationship?.but i can feel he is over his wife. 1
Satu Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 There's nothing to save. He never had any intention of building a relationship with you. He doesn't care about you. He doesn't love you. You're just somebody he used and exploited. He's not a nice man. Sorry. Take care. 2
Author pinkdiamond Posted September 3, 2016 Author Posted September 3, 2016 Thanks but i could feel he loved me before things turned sour. I did not ask him why did he lie about his name and marital status. But i think it is because if i google his real name i would find out about his wife. He is separated which means my relationship with him is considered adultery in the country we live in. When he was in HK he bought a citrine gemstone for me. He was really possessive. One night he wanted to see me but i refused. He texted " im lonely and you are free but do not want to see me. I ordered dinner for you yet you did not come. I think you are with another guy"one night i told him i cannot fall asleep. He told me "come over to my place i will talk to you until you sleep". When i was high on sleeping pills i may have said other things that upset him but i may have forgotten. When i was high , he asked me if i am an escort. I stupidly said yes. He actually told me it does not change what he thinks of me, but hopes i can quit for my own good. After we had sex he did not become any less affectionate.
Author pinkdiamond Posted September 3, 2016 Author Posted September 3, 2016 Thanks but i could feel he loved me before things turned sour. I did not ask him why did he lie about his name and marital status. But i think it is because if i google his real name i would find out about his wife. He is separated which means my relationship with him is considered adultery in the country we live in. When he was in HK he bought a citrine gemstone for me. He was really possessive. One night he wanted to see me but i refused. He texted " im lonely and you are free but do not want to see me. I ordered dinner for you yet you did not come. I think you are with another guy"one night i told him i cannot fall asleep. He told me "come over to my place i will talk to you until you sleep". When i was high on sleeping pills i may have said other things that upset him but i may have forgotten. When i was high , he asked me if i am an escort. I stupidly said yes. He actually told me it does not change what he thinks of me, but hopes i can quit for my own good. After we had sex he did not become any less affectionate.
lbjanieb Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 OMG girl please stop you are hurting yourself and your future. Why are you taking sleeping pills? You do not know your own feelings because you didn't want him or like him but now you do? The sex changes everything and it clouds your judgment. You feel connected to him emotionally now. But look at all the signs. He was dishonest from the beginning. He's been controlling, then cold, then he wants to keep you around. But the whole time he wants things his way. This is not a healthy, loving relationship. What do you want for your future? I can guarantee that this is not the road to anything good. Please get into some counseling to help you sort these things out. You need a good support system of people who want the best for you. Not this sick relationship. He is not a good man. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 No, he didn't love you. If you think that is love, you need to date around more. A lot more. Get off the drugs and stay away from this man. You are heading for serious trouble and heartache if you don't. Surely there are decent-quality guys in your area? Don't settle for a loser like him. I wouldn't even give this clown the time of day. 1
preraph Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 You were just someone to have sex with, but he knew when you looked up his wife that you could get him in trouble and would given the chance, so he's decided you're not worth it just to get laid. And you made it clear you were only in it for sex anyway, so why you're trying to think it's love, I have no idea. 1
starswewillnavigate Posted September 4, 2016 Posted September 4, 2016 Pinkdiamond - I am curious to know where you are from and if he is the same nationality as you? From what you've said, he is seeing you as a possession and one to sleep with as and when he choses. 1
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