marxman2015 Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 If you are dating a girl who just broke up recently (4-6months) after a long relationship (3-5years), any way you can truly gauge if she is ready to move on? She mention she has broken up once before with the guy, the first time they break up she felt hurt, but for the second time she feel nothing. And the only time she talks about ex is when I ask her about it, otherwise she never brings it up 1
salparadise Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 If the communication is free-flowing and she's not talking about him at all, then she's probably over it. She may have been divesting emotionally since the first breakup, and if she's the one who decided to get out, she may have had it mostly processed at the time she left. Different people handle it differently. 4-6 months is enough for some people and their circumstances, not for others. But it would be a rare bird that would feel no need to talk about it, yet not be over it. 1
Satu Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 I'll reply with a clipping from my journal. My answer is in the bolded part. "Never begin a new relationship until you've fully moved on from the one before. Also never begin a new relationship with someone who hasn't fully moved on from their one before. By 'moved on,' I mean any necessary grieving done, not preoccupied with the ex, enjoying life, feeling good about yourself, and optimistic about the future. The best way to move on is to decide to be single for a while; not dating, not hooking up, no fwb. Some short term counselling if that appeals to you. 'Get back on the horse' is sound advice, but its best to let the cuts and bruises heal before you do." 4-6 months is quite a short period of time, but that doesn't mean that she can't have moved on. Some people take years to move on. Some never do. Every case is different. Take care. 1
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