Piddle Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 Currently I am totaly keeping all my dating options open. I am done with focusing all my attention on one guy. But as with all these plans something unexpected comes up! There's a guy in my team at work who started recently and I really like him. I'm pretty sure the feeling is mutual. There's a vibe that even other colleagues have picked up on and we spend a lot of time together. I'm kinda scaring myself with how much I like him. I don't think I've met someone this "perfect" without me wishing "oh I wish X was different" for almost 10 years There are a couple of issues with this. First way to awkward with work and the kind of work we do it would undermine our work. Second he is totaly heartbroken after the end of a very long term relationship. She left him. He is online dating but has made it clear he only looking for casual. I know he must kind of like me as he has told all of our other colleagues about this but not me Even though we are the closest and spend the most time in the whole team. It was not until we were having a one on one lunch that I asked him straight up. Are you on this hookup site? And he went all quiet and said yeah, but I'm only looking for something casual. All of this has made me realise if something is going to happen it will not be for a while. So I guess we're going to have to be friends for a while. And I will keep on dating and keep my options open but I just have a feeling about this guy. My question is this, I have a history of meeting guys, liking them, and then becoming friends with them and then remaining platonic friends for years. How do you stay close to a person like this, but at the same time keeping the sexual tension alive and making him contiue seeing you as a possibility when the time is right? And at the same time keeping it cool I need to do things differently with this guy. Keep the flame alive and then notch things up when the time is right.
SillyRabbitmetKitty Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 seeing other guys would be a good move, you never know who come up next, maybe a even more perfect guy. I don't know others but for me all my male friends are gay, there is one super nice stranght man who always be there for me until he met his current gf. ( I have no romatic feeling towards him but it was nice to have him available) Guys who was friends and I finally slept with were no longer be my friend in my case. If you can take it causually like what he looking for, sleep with him if he is hot. If not, stay friends until he finally realise you are a relationship material. At the mean time, have a new guy pick you up at work may help to see his reaction.
xxoo Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 In a situation like this, where you've had the luck to meet and spark chemistry, it's a matter of, "if it's meant to be, it will be." If it's meant to be, the chemistry won't fade. That was my experience, anyway
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