letsrock Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 So I am a freshman in college. We just moved in a little less than a month ago and things have been going pretty well. I ended up meeting g a girl in a class and initially, I could tell she was into me, but I wasn't super interested but we walked together after class and she was cool. Got her number and ended up texting her a few days later. So long story short, we ended up hanging out a lot and we've gotten semi close. We have done some stuff sexually but mainly just friends stuff and I am pretty sure she doesn't want anything TOO serious and neither do I. But we were chilling in my room watching TV and we ended up deciding that we would just stick with each other and not really screw with any other people as far as sex goes. This girl is a bit crazy and lately, I've gotten really into her. Almost too into her and I know it isn't healthy. I am bad for falling for a girl too quick and just freaking out over nothing but the other night, she got into some **** and got drugged at a party and woke up in a random house. (she didn't get raped but still). I had been trying to text and call her when she was apparently passed out but never answered of course. Well we ended up talking on the phone and thats when she explained that she was scared and confused and i was just like what the hell... I really want to hep this girl because I like her and can tell she doesn't make the greatest decisions but Ive come to really care about her. I want her to succeed and for some reason, I haven't been able to stop thinking about her at all for the past days. I feel like this is really unhealthy. I haven't talked to her much at all today and Im pretty sure everything is gunna be ok, I just needed to talk about it. I am not the desperate type at all. I talk to lots of girls and I am not lonely, I just for some reason really like this girl. I feel like I might should distance myself a bit just to calm things down but part of me feels like i won't feel better until i talk to her and hang out with her again. I don't want to screw things up with her for seeming clingy or something but its hard. I don't usually struggle with this which only makes me more frustrated. Any advice? Thank you.
JewelD Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 Its the first month and most students are dating/screwing around. I wouldn't get wrapped up in one person that quickly. You're bound to meet another girl you like better and she might meet someone else too. I just would not expect anything serious when you are both in a brand new environment and basically testing the waters.
blackcat777 Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 Everyone is a hot mess in freshman year. My boyfriend and I split for a bit when he went away to college. The sage advice he gives to his younger friends and family now is that, "It's okay if the people you're friends with freshman year are not your friends the next year." Everyone changes. A LOT. You'll change, too.
preraph Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 College age people are usually doing a lot of partying and learning the hard way and making some mistakes, but it's also a lot of fun for them, so there's no stopping it. I worry if they're still at it most of the time by age 30. With her, you need to go ahead and tell her you want to help protect her if she'll text and let you know where she is at night when partying when you're not together, just in case she blacks out again. Blacking out on a regular basis IS a sure sign of alcoholism.
Author letsrock Posted September 3, 2016 Author Posted September 3, 2016 You all are right and I appreciate the replies. Me and this girl have hung out about every other night with the exception of a few times but at first i could tell she was really into me but ever since the whole getting drugged thing, she was been much less responsive and she hasnt texted me back since then. We just snap chat a few times throughout the day and its just weird because i am the type of guy that if a girl acts super into me, im cool and I don't really need her but for some reason when i girl starts acting distant, i get super into it and i dont want that to ruin the friendship. I texted her 3 times when she had the blackout thing happened and i dont want to seem to clingy and text her for the 4th time. Unless she just thinks that im acting distant because i haven't texted her? Idk she is so hard to read but what do you guys think?
JewelD Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 You all are right and I appreciate the replies. Me and this girl have hung out about every other night with the exception of a few times but at first i could tell she was really into me but ever since the whole getting drugged thing, she was been much less responsive and she hasnt texted me back since then. We just snap chat a few times throughout the day and its just weird because i am the type of guy that if a girl acts super into me, im cool and I don't really need her but for some reason when i girl starts acting distant, i get super into it and i dont want that to ruin the friendship. I texted her 3 times when she had the blackout thing happened and i dont want to seem to clingy and text her for the 4th time. Unless she just thinks that im acting distant because i haven't texted her? Idk she is so hard to read but what do you guys think? but you just said you did text her so why would she think you are being distant? I would leave her alone.
Author letsrock Posted September 4, 2016 Author Posted September 4, 2016 I hadn't texted her in like 3 days and I didn't respond very much just so I didn't seem desperate but she ended up texting me. The only problem here is that im just need to chill. She showed tons of interest in me in the first little while acting like she only wanted me and that just seemed super cool to me so i just got kinda caught up in that.
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