IntoIt111 Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 I met this girl through a friend, it was during a night out at a bar. Initially she shown a lot of interest, and we really hit it off that night. We made out a lot (although was drunken). After the night out, i've became closer to her, where we texted everyday as good friends. She kept sending me texts about herself, and was enthusiastic about my life. I asked her out for dinner and the first date went extraordinarily well, as we had dinner, played around in the theme park, and had a drink. We were really touchy and hit it off well. The second date although started to fizzle, we caught a movie but she was acting uninterested and bored. To be honest, it was hard to continue a conversation when she isnt investing enough energy into it. I was wondering why, and asked her what she felt like that day. She mentioned a lot about how she isnt ready for a relationship after the recent breakup, and didnt say much more. I feel like shes been viewing them as a friends out, whilst im viewing it as a date. Since its my first time dating after a long time, im not sure if i should continue wasting my time going after this girl since shes not emotionally prepared for it. Its also been a hassle to visit each other since we live 2 hours apart. Should i continue talking to her? Thanks for reading
ExpatInItaly Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 No, I wouldn't bother to continue talking. She is dropping a big hint by saying she's not ready for a relationship. I would just let this one go. 3
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 Ugh. How unfortunate. Did you make out during the first date? Anyway, she must have known you were wanting more. She still went out with you. Ack. 2
Redhead14 Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 I met this girl through a friend, it was during a night out at a bar. Initially she shown a lot of interest, and we really hit it off that night. We made out a lot (although was drunken). After the night out, i've became closer to her, where we texted everyday as good friends. She kept sending me texts about herself, and was enthusiastic about my life. I asked her out for dinner and the first date went extraordinarily well, as we had dinner, played around in the theme park, and had a drink. We were really touchy and hit it off well. The second date although started to fizzle, we caught a movie but she was acting uninterested and bored. To be honest, it was hard to continue a conversation when she isnt investing enough energy into it. I was wondering why, and asked her what she felt like that day. She mentioned a lot about how she isnt ready for a relationship after the recent breakup, and didnt say much more. I feel like shes been viewing them as a friends out, whilst im viewing it as a date. Since its my first time dating after a long time, im not sure if i should continue wasting my time going after this girl since shes not emotionally prepared for it. Its also been a hassle to visit each other since we live 2 hours apart. Should i continue talking to her? Thanks for reading She's fresh out of a relationship and hasn't finished grieving. It's never a good idea to date someone who is recently out of a relationship. Keep moving.
Ami1uwant Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 This is why you should always ask about past relationships..not to get to the gory drama and details but to find out how experienced they are in relationships but also to find out how recent she was to the last break up. It's really hard to tell if someone is ready to date. It's based on many factors such asrelationship length and how sudden the break up was. Even if they say the haven't dated for 6 months. They don't know if they are ready until they actually date. Thus it isn't uncommon for this to happen where a first date goes great then they pull away.e
mragnis Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 If she's really telling true, if she's realy still emotionally envolved with ex then i advise you don't bother. Otherwise you'll still have lots of problem with that in future.
Erik30 Posted September 3, 2016 Posted September 3, 2016 I would just back off and see if she's comes back. She might be telling the truth about not being ready, but it's also one of those easy excuses people use when they've lost interest. Move on and find a new girl.
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