clueless101 Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 Hi guys. Dating again so I have been on dating apps. I met a guy on bumble and we hit it off. He's very sweet respectful and takes me on great dates and refuses to let me chip in n help pay for anything. Although I sneak a drink in for us here and there. However, I noticed that he changes his profile a lot. I'm assuming bc he's not getting as many matches as he wants. I mean, about every 2 hours his profile is different. Different pictures, different order of the pictures, different wording in his profile then a few hours later he deletes it and it says the same thing it originally said. I first noticed it after I got a message from someone else right above his message and I noticed his picture was different so I clicked on it. This was right after a great date by the way. So now it's kind of a joke between me and my friends to guess how many times he will change his profile in a day lol At first I was hurt but now it's kind of funny and a turn off. Would it turn you guys off too? Would you still hang out w him or forget about him if he is trying so hard for matches? I was focused on him until this week when he started being so consistent in changing his profile so I started answering more of the messages I have been receiving and have other dates lined up. It's been 4 weeks of dating. What do you think?
somecamel Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 It does sound a bit weird after 4 weeks of dating to be fair. Have you guys not had the chat about dating others? Personally, I'd cut my losses and move on, give some of the other guys a chance. 2
Author clueless101 Posted September 2, 2016 Author Posted September 2, 2016 No we have not had the chat. I was fine with him dating around if that's what he wanted but to be so desperate about it makes him so unappealing now. But we talked last night for 2 hours. He asked me what I was up to this wknd. We did have plans to go out w my friends but the other couple cannot make it now. I just said I wasn't sure yet bc I'm not sure if I want to hang out with him lol
Miss Peach Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 It sounds like he's still searching for options. Most men I've met who were really serious or me or other women I noticed seemed to be pretty sure about wanting to start something pretty early on. They may play cool or something but they seem to categorize women into playthings or GF material pretty quickly. I would be cautious about getting caught up with him as he may just be using you to pass time with. It's too hard to say at this point. If you really like him you can give him a little longer but if by 2 months he isn't escalating things at all I would just let it go. In the meantime I would also be meeting other men. 1
preraph Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 The only thing that matters here is that he's still hoping to meet someone he'll like better than you. 1
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