ThisisIt606 Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 I'm about to have my 7th date with a guy I met off an app. He has done the majority of alluding to future dates, "we should do this again", etc talk. I agree when he says this. I'll also ask "what days are you free?" to show interest. During our last date he suggested seeing a movie this weekend and if not a movie there is always something interesting to do We set a specific day this weekend. At this point, is it still advised to let him initiate the date idea/plan and wait for him to text? Or should I text something along the lines of " Hey, what do you think we should do? (Say my suggestion)? open to other ideas!" I have initiated a date idea in the past and we have done it. Or I would say suggest something and he would reply, " I was actually thinking...." And we would do his plan as it sounded good to me too. We also only see eachother 1x a week due to our schedules. He says he thinks about me a lot during the week and wishes we could see each other more. I do too and told him that. Since we still are at the beginning stages of dating, I feel it's hard to get the relationship off the ground with only 1x per week. Any ideas how to see him more often? He has come over after work once but by the time that happens it's 9pm on a weekday so it's late to actually go out/do something. He doesn't work every day, so we have had dates earlier in the evening. We spent a whole day together during one of my vaca days. But I'm not always on vaca so that was unique
leogirl876 Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 Call him or text him and say you really wanna see him or when can I see you again. 1
angel.eyes Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 " Hey, what do you think we should do? (Say my suggestion)? open to other ideas!" Sounds perfect! Seven dates in, you should occasionally be initiating since it's clear he's interested. In terms of meeting more often, can you get together for lunch? Or just meet near his workplace when he gets off from work? That way it's 7 or 8, rather than 9 pm. 1
Miss Peach Posted September 2, 2016 Posted September 2, 2016 I may be a bit old fashioned but I expect a man to initiate the dates until he makes it clear he wants to be more serious/exclusive. If a guy doesn't firm up plans the day before I make other plans. I also mirror his other efforts. I know it may sound a bit old fashioned but it works well for me to eliminate flakes and guys without a strong interest. I can also get a better sense of what the guy's agenda is before getting too invested. 1
Author ThisisIt606 Posted September 3, 2016 Author Posted September 3, 2016 I would also like to add he didn't text me at all yesterday... which is somewhat rare... I texted him first the day before and initated 2 short text convos. I send him 2 snaps which he viewed and texted me about. It took him awhile to view the 2nd snap and then hetexted right after saying it gave him something to "dream about" (it was just a pic of me smiling) I told him i was glad and goodnight (he never responded to my goodnight). He also never texted yesterday but did view my snap story at night. I know he worked yesterday and today. We mentioned (thursday) we would do something Sunday. Tomorrow is sunday and I still don't know when or where. I have an event in the afternoon and I would really like to know my evening plans with him sooner rather than later so I can get back from the event in time and get ready for my date. I was thinking of just texting him this AM? Does it seem like i'm dealing with any red flags with his lack of texting? He did tell me once before that he isn't a phone person and not into social media (no accounts) So if I text him and it takes awhile to hear back, don't take it personally.
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