Wtf am I missing?

[PreciousOne]

I'll try to keep things brief. Started hooking up with a guy I went to hs with. We fooled around for a couple months, stopped fooling around for about a year. During this year I went from 300lbs to 182lbs. I get a call out the blue late on night on my way home from work from him asking to stop by. He started saying how he wanted to see if things could be more between us. Now we've been dating for about 4 months but things are weird. It's not like the usual beginning of a relationship. I don't have much experience dating because I was involved in a long term ****uation. I feel as if he doesn't really want me like he says all the things you want to hear, he's even talking about living together . He didn't ask about my day or really even try to get to kno me. Doesn't act like a boyfriend at all. I feel like he has a motive but I just don't kno what it is though

[mammasita]

If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. It certainly doesn't sound right.

 

You've been dating 4 months. Do you go out? Movies? Dinners? Outings?

 

If you're simply hooking up and staying home, this isn't a well rounded relationship - more of a "hook up" and IMO he's feeding you a bunch of BS.

[kendahke]

I'll try to keep things brief. Started hooking up with a guy I went to hs with. We fooled around for a couple months, stopped fooling around for about a year. During this year I went from 300lbs to 182lbs. I get a call out the blue late on night on my way home from work from him asking to stop by. He started saying how he wanted to see if things could be more between us. Now we've been dating for about 4 months but things are weird. It's not like the usual beginning of a relationship. I don't have much experience dating because I was involved in a long term ****uation. I feel as if he doesn't really want me like he says all the things you want to hear, he's even talking about living together . He didn't ask about my day or really even try to get to kno me. Doesn't act like a boyfriend at all. I feel like he has a motive but I just don't kno what it is though

 

When you directly ask him why he isn't interested in your day or in getting to know you, what does he say?

 

Ask him if things have turned out the way in which he envisioned 4 months ago when he asked to rekindle with you.

 

Ask him if he's serious about you two living together or was he thinking out loud? Tell him you've noticed that he doesn't act like a boyfriend.

 

Ask him what his intentions are.

 

Stop guessing, own your voice and speak up for yourself. You have a decision to make and you have to look out for your own best interests.

[gorf]

I was going to quote key points. But you wrote it out pretty clear.

 

Look, it was a fling. He got bored, you lost weight, then he came back for more. He's not a boyfriend and has no desire to be. The talk about moving in is just so he has his steady supply of sex and a place to stay. The writing is on the wall darling

[angel.eyes]

Unfortunately, that about sums it up.

 

Generally, it's very hard for a guy to see you as relationship material when you had been just his booty call before. Weight loss won't change that dynamic.